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Emme wrote :
I don't have a clue how tall you are, Haz. And on a for more important note, have you had your fantasy football drafts yet?

I'm just shy of 6'2" EM, and i've got a draft at 6 tonight. ...Not lookin' at many Pats though.
- September 1st, 2009, 12:38 pm
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IBetter yet why is so much height even attractive? When I see a tall guy, it looks weird. His legs are too long and look weird, he looks like a freak.
BTW, thank you for that... at 6'10" it really makes a person feel good.

Well I can tell you from experience that women just as easily rule out men who, to them, are too tall. I think you'd be surprised at the number of women who won't consider dating a person of my stature, perhaps due to what you said above. (And thank you ladies, I know some of you here would date me, irregardless of my height which is even well beyond the JCPenney catalog designation of Extra Tall

Personally I absolutely love being this tall and I couldn't imagine being shorter. Now if only there were more women above 6'2" on the dating sites...
- September 1st, 2009, 01:15 pm
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BuzWeaver wrote :
Most people are about the same height when they're horizontal.
You said what I was thinking, lol.
- September 1st, 2009, 04:10 pm
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Yeeeee haaaa, Saul, baby!

I have to say this: Ive YET to date a man more than 3 inches taller than I am. I'm five foot nine and I can only suppose somehow that freaks the tall ones out and the SHORTER MEN do come on! I like it- I'll pick talent and brains over looks and height every which way and six times on a Sunday.

Longest relationship was with a guy who is five foot three and a half inches tall! Very brainy, played hockey (so much for the assumed athleticism claim for tall guys only) and had a wicked smart alecky sense of humour.

He was an incurable flirt- which made me think that HE was insecure about me being with him, not the other way 'round.



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As you might expect, height has been shown to be more important to men than to women's attractiveness. So why is it that women find height to be so important? Beigel's (1954) study showed that people attribute everything from dominance, superiority, fearlessness, protectiveness, ambitiousness, leadership qualities, athleticism and sheer physical strength to tall people over shorter people. Tall men also tended to command attention from others, which women found appealing.

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Interesting, eh. It implies that it's not the HEIGHT that women are attracted to, it's the CONFIDENCE.

I recall seeing two women in a bar one night, standing alone, in a room full of guys. They were these Dallas girls with huge purses, way out of my league, nor was I particularly interested in trying, but dadgum they were smoking hot! They were those girls who complain that guys never hit on them.

So on the way out I stop by to talk with them. They looked bored. I forget what all I said, or what they said, but it was cordial, they were friendly, smiling, seemed entertained, at least, if not wanting to drag me into the bathroom for a quickie.

I said at one point, "And here you are, two hotties, and nobody but the short guys are talking with you. Room full of tall, strapping men, and none of them have the sack to walk up and talk to you. I bet they're buying you drinks and having the ~waitress~ bring them over."

Which, to me, is right up there with wearing a thong.

Cue the waitress with two shots, I kid you not. The timing was creepy.

"From those guys at the bar," the waitress said.

"No sack," I said. "Yall have a fun night trying to get these wusses to come up and talk with you. Don't look so good next time, and maybe you'll have better luck."

They were both about two, three inches taller than me.


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- September 1st, 2009, 04:28 pm
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I am 5'6"...I would not want to be with a man much taller...Ideally, at least 2" taller to 4-6" (I am guessing here really). But I really don't care.[/quote]

I came back to this thread because I just had to say something. Prior to my divorce and lots of counseling with many aha! moments, I dated and felt most comfortable with much taller men. Mostly 6"2' plus. The tallest I think was 6'5" or 6'6". I am 5'7 1/2" which isn't short for a woman but these guys were lots taller then me and I definitely had to look up at them.

After the counseling what I wanted in a partner completely changed and not because I consciously changed it. It was kind of a surprise acutally. I have noticed that I prefer a person that I do not have to look up to so much. A person 3 or 4 inches taller then me would be perfect because I always wear heels.

I think this mean that this mean that basically looking for an equal now. I think before I was always looking for someone to protect me and perhaps, subconsciously even control me. But that is gone. The only reason height really matters to me now is because it is apparent to me that the women being taller thing is something only a man with a good self image, someone looking for a real person and not an illusion, can handle well.

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- September 1st, 2009, 08:09 pm
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I'll admit that I like much taller guys. At 5'6", I prefer to date people 6-9 inches taller than me. And it is for basically all the reasons listed in that body language study. I also like to feel small/diminutive, as one poster said.

Is it superficial? Yes. And if I met a great guy that was under 6 ft, I'd definitely give him a chance, but he'd have to be super-confident to make it work.
- September 2nd, 2009, 07:27 am
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kiss_that_frog wrote :
BTW, thank you for that... at 6'10" it really makes a person feel good.

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Well, KTF, here's a story for ya, my friend...

I'm 5'7". One of the guys here at work is about your height, a staggering, whopping, amazing 6'10", and you don't have to hear him coming, you can ~feel~ him coming. Everyone's office is marked with their name, about eye-level, about 66" off the floor, but his name tag is up near 80".

In the restrooms, he always ribs me that I should be using the "big-boy" urinal, you know, the one that's for midgets and kids. We banter.

Anyway, I get a date online one night. She looked great in her pictures, full-bodied, looks smoking, so I have high hopes.

When I get to the bar, I see W. He's at the end of the bar with his girlfriend, drinking, and we chat until my date arrives.

And she is HOT. Turns out later I see her at a strip club, stripping. She and I were both embarrassed.

So she and I head to the end of the bar and order our drinks. I get a beer. She gets something fruity.

W calls the bartender over, says something to him, the bartender looks up at me and my date, smiles, and then walks our way.

"Sir," the bartender says, "Your daddy just said you're not old enough to drink."


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- September 2nd, 2009, 12:37 pm
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Maybe when a guy is taller the woman feels she is aspiring to new heights? Seriously, the psychological factors could be more than just protection.
- September 2nd, 2009, 03:32 pm
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I think a tall guy is really cool, haha. What do I mean you ask? I just think tallness is really neat for some reason. One of my closest male friends is 6'5" and his wife, one of my closest friends as well, is about 5'2"! And they really make it work I am 5'8", tall for a girl, and I prefer a guy to be 5'10" and up. I used to say 6'0" and up, but as I got older, I found the guys were getting shorter, so I lowered it to 5'10", haha. But I'll even go for 5'9" if I really like the guy. As long as I don't feel like I am towering over him. There is just something about having a tall guy around, you feel more protected. I know someone mentioned that you aren't always technically more protected just because you're with a taller guy, but it's just the feeling that you get when you're with them, even if they're super skinny, haha. Just my thoughts on the tall man thing...oh yeah, and this is something I grew up knowing about: SMS. Short Male Syndrome. Termed this for guys who feel they have to compensate for their shortness by building their muscles up. It has always cracked me and my girl friends up No offense to shorter guys, but accept yourselves as you are, don't feel the need to be a body builder!
- September 15th, 2009, 05:25 am
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I'm 5'6" and I've dated guys shorter than me and guys taller than me. I think the attraction has less to do with a guy being tall and more to do with a guy being self-confident.

One of the most attractive guys I ever dated was exactly my height, maybe a bit shorter. He was self-confident, charming, fun and self-assured enough to take the lead. I was so interested in getting to know "him" that his height didn't even register on my radar.

A guy doesn't have to fit the "tall, dark and handsome" mold to be attractive, but IMO being self-confident is a must. Too many "nice" guys I've met lack the self-confidence to candidly be themselves. If I go on a date with a guy who is noticeably self-conscious, seems overly-preoccupied with how I'm reacting to him or is hesitant about taking initiative, I read it as insecurity and start to lose interest. He may be a genuinely "nice" guy in spite of his insecurities (be they his height, weight, hairline, fear of rejection), but even nice guys need to be able to man up when the occasion calls for it.
- September 15th, 2009, 10:49 am
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