Emme is offline Emme Post #1  August 29,2009, 4:22pm

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on Friday. An eH guy, no less. We had lunch, and it turns out we work in the same building. We really hit it off, and so we went to see Ted Kennedy's funeral procession, which was scheduled to pass just up the street a block. Of course the procession was late so we spent quite a bit of time chatting and laughing. He called me on his way home, and we talked about doing something this weekend but he had to check with his 14 year old son to see what was happening with him. All fine by me; kids definitely come first. We discussed going to see "The Hangover" and then maybe dinner or to watch the Sox, and briefly discussed watching a football game on Friday night instead. He was all gung ho to see me again. I like the guy, but don't feel huge sparks but think I could.

I texted him this morning to see if we were going to get together today as I didn't hear from him last night. No response. About 3 I texted him that I made other plans since I hadn't heard from him.

I know posts like these are a dime a dozen, but what is happening? Other than there being some kind of crisis in his life, I have a hard time believing he couldn't find 30 seconds to text back and say he was busy after all. I find this stuff very disappointing.

I did, however, have a truly lovely day. Went to the movies, picked out paint for a couple of rooms, fixed a wall in the house, read a book with cats draped on me, overall a fine time on a crummy rainy day.

Any ideas, other than the crisis idea or the he's just not that into you? I'd have a hard time believing the last one, but I guess it's always possible.
 
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I find it touching that you paid homage with Ted Kennedy. That was great. i don't know about the guy though. We're a wired lot. "read a book with cats draped on me" Great mental image.
 
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At least you had a good day. I agree. He could have texted you back. But I suspect after the second text you sent stating that you had made plans since you had not heard from him, that turned him off. It may be "Oh well".
 
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Emme is offline Emme Post #4  August 29,2009, 5:07pm

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When I told him I'd made other plans, it was far too late to do anything wiht him as we live nearly 2 hours apart. And I wished him a great weekend, so I'm hoping it didn't piss him off. That wasn't my intention.
 
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Emme wrote :
I did, however, have a truly lovely day. Went to the movies, picked out paint for a couple of rooms, fixed a wall in the house, read a book with cats draped on me, overall a fine time on a crummy rainy day.

Any ideas, other than the crisis idea or the he's just not that into you? I'd have a hard time believing the last one, but I guess it's always possible.
I'm no expert, but I think you did everything 'right.'

You may never know why he didn't get back to you -- probably he just has other priorities and didn't see the need to text you back. It's unfortunate, and many would say it was inconsiderate of him.

The bottom line is that you are probably a nicer person than he is because, in that situation, you would have spent the 30 seconds to text your friend back. So would I.

I'm glad you had a good day, though.
 
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I guess he realized he wasn't good enough for ya EM
 
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The "hangover" & the Sox sound like great date ideas. You will be able to find a lot of guys that will join you for those things.

Who knows what his deal is? The ball is definitely in his court & you will probably have future communications with him in your building so let it go.
 
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This one sounds like any number of flakes we have all had at some point. They act one way, try to make a connection then poooofff!!!

This is just one on your way to the right one. Laugh every single day and be thankfull this jerk did not hook you in.
 
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you shouldn't have sent the first msg. If he's interested, he'll call.
on top of your first msg, you send a second one and kindly let him know your "plan" is canceled when he's not making any plans?

DO NOT chase a guy. If he's not coming to you, don't even bother.

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on Friday. An eH guy, no less. We had lunch, and it turns out we work in the same building. We really hit it off, and so we went to see Ted Kennedy's funeral procession, which was scheduled to pass just up the street a block. Of course the procession was late so we spent quite a bit of time chatting and laughing. He called me on his way home, and we talked about doing something this weekend but he had to check with his 14 year old son to see what was happening with him. All fine by me; kids definitely come first. We discussed going to see "The Hangover" and then maybe dinner or to watch the Sox, and briefly discussed watching a football game on Friday night instead. He was all gung ho to see me again. I like the guy, but don't feel huge sparks but think I could.

I texted him this morning to see if we were going to get together today as I didn't hear from him last night. No response. About 3 I texted him that I made other plans since I hadn't heard from him.

I know posts like these are a dime a dozen, but what is happening? Other than there being some kind of crisis in his life, I have a hard time believing he couldn't find 30 seconds to text back and say he was busy after all. I find this stuff very disappointing.

I did, however, have a truly lovely day. Went to the movies, picked out paint for a couple of rooms, fixed a wall in the house, read a book with cats draped on me, overall a fine time on a crummy rainy day.

Any ideas, other than the crisis idea or the he's just not that into you? I'd have a hard time believing the last one, but I guess it's always possible.
 
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Emme is offline Emme Post #10  August 29,2009, 5:58pm

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Geez, I don't consider texting him "chasing" and even if I am "chasing" him, why is ok for a guy to chase a woman but not a woman to chase a guy? I thought my second text was a courtesy to let him know that I wasn't going to be available if he was hoping for a last minute get together. If he doesn't ever get back to me, his loss. And my company is moving out of the bldg in January anyway. I don't play games. If I'm interested in someone, I let him know. Same as if I'm not interested. If he doesn't get back to me, he's not interested and I'll let it go. His loss, as far as I'm concerned.
 
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