lh is offline lh Post #1  August 29,2009, 1:46pm
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I have been seeing this guy for approximately 3 months. I met him off of match. I really like him but he is not into a exclusive relationship and has told me so. But I have continued to see him. I guess in hopes this would change. But he has never kissed me not even on the cheek. We have been intiment 3x. I just find it strange there has been no kissing at all. He has not put his mouth to my body period. What do you think.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #2  August 29,2009, 1:52pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Oooh. I don't like the sound of that. Poor you.

Hookers won't kiss their clients because it's too intimate.

Unless his other stuff is really, really good, I think I'd stop.
 
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What?!? You've been intimate with him 3 times but he's never kissed you?!? That is wrong on so many levels. I can't imagine not kissing but just "getting right down to business."

The question is not what do we readers think... but why do you allow this?

After three months, he's getting exactly what he wants from this relationship (exclusive or not). Just what are you getting out of it?
 
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No offense but I think it's silly of you to think this guy will change his mind and suddenly want to be exclusive with you (or anyone else for that matter). I know we all think we're special. But if a guy tells you he doesn't want a girlfriend, gets "intimate" with you, and can't bring himself to even kiss you, then we probably just wants no-passion sex.
If that's what you want, continue on. But I think you said you want more...
 
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Laughingdaily is offline Laughingdaily Post #5  August 29,2009, 2:02pm
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I do not want to be rude or anything, but what are YOU THINKING HERE?????

This guy is a huge ZERO, and using you for his own self interests!!!!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #6  August 29,2009, 2:24pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I'm all for giving people a chance and finding out more about them....but what you're describing sounds so bizarre that I have to think this guy has some really huge issues. But then again....you've been a willing participant in this scenario, so that says something as well.
 
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lh is offline lh Post #7  August 29,2009, 2:31pm
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WOW, I sure got quick responses. I am a 55 year old widow. I was married for 30 years. This is the first person I have been with since my husband died 8 years ago. I have not dated. So I guess I got caught up in this. My only defence
 
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I understand you were married and all that, but the world around us continues regardless. Surely you have friends and family that also have had relationship issues right?? I am not trying to put you down but where did you live during your marriage?
 
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LavenderFields is offline LavenderFields Post #9  August 29,2009, 2:56pm
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Awww.. lh! Don't beat yourself up over it.
Dating now is the same as dating 35 years ago
Then again your priorities (about life) have probably shifted a bit (or a lot), so ask yourself what you want and go get it, he certainly seems to be doing so.
 
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I'm with WonderWoman on this. SOmething about this doesn't read right. Being "intimate" with someone without kissing sounds like a one-night hookup, not a relationship. I'm not judging, but why do this to yourself?
 
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