SkyHawk is offline SkyHawk Post #1  August 28,2009, 11:16pm
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If a man is interested in a woman (according to several people in his life), then what could cause him to frequently talk about other women while he is spending time with her?
 
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It depends what he talks about other women.

Women are 50%+ the population. It's kind of hard not to talk about them as a male.
 
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Maybe he is not s interested as you think. He could like a person but not be interested in a exclusive relationship. He may see other people as well. Still I think it is mean to bring up other women. I know a guy who I go out with and he is not exclusive. He dates several women but he will occasionally bring someone else up. I don't respond and that will usually drop that .
 
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SkyHawk wrote :
If a man is interested in a woman (according to several people in his life), then what could cause him to frequently talk about other women while he is spending time with her?
"Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks."

He talks about them because for some reason they are on his mind. There are several possible reasons for that:

1. Maybe he's not that interested in the one he's with, and can't stop thinking about everyone else.

2. Maybe he is very interested in the one he's with, but is paranoid about her being like the others, so he's either trying to provoke a reaction or assure himself that this one really is different from the rest.

3. Maybe he is kind of interested, but not sure, and he is mentally comparing her with the others as a way of processing his feelings and deciding whether she really is the one he wants.

So, my conclusion is that he's either very interested, or kind of interested, or not interested at all.
It's definitely one of those three things.
 
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You have left out all the pertinent information?

What is he saying about these other women? Is he comparing you to these other women? Are these other women ex-girlfriends, ex-wives or late wife? These would be red flag areas.

Are these other women people he worked with, girls he grew up with, neighbors?

I have quite a number of female friends. Most are married. We have been friends for years, one I grew up with and have known nearly my entire life and she is like my sister (her mom considered that I was her other son). I talk to these women frequently and they are an important part of my life. None are or were ever romantic interests

Without more information it is hard to tell if you have a red flag situation or if he has a red flag situation because of your unfounded jealousy.
 
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kevin76 wrote :
So, my conclusion is that he's either very interested, or kind of interested, or not interested at all.
It's definitely one of those three things.
LOL! I agree, it's one of those three...

Or, maybe he's insecure and trying to 'impress' you by implying that he has other women in his life. Personally, I'd find it off-putting, unless it was a casual remark now and then that had relevance to the conversation.

Example: "You have green eyes just like my ex-wife. I love green eyes!"
*buzzer sound*

Good luck!
 
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Thanks for all the feedback. Yes, he was trying to impress me and not realizing it is a MAJOR turn-off. Lesson learned. Thanks again!
 
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