Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  August 28,2009, 6:54am
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This is mostly to those who are at least near my age group but you younger folks can jump in too.

Am I just old and out of touch believing that when you send e-mail communications (Open Communication) that you should address the person to whom you are sending the e-mail? The same thing for signing the e-mail at the end.

I ahve many a match that in the Open Communication messages she just begins the message and no where in the message will ever address me by name. Some of them just end the message and never sign off with their name.

I certainly don't want a formal letter:

Dear Gr8Guyn2008:

Sincerly,
Mary

But I would like to think that the mesage was written to me. Am I expecting too much and that personalization is a thing of bygone days?
 
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Dear Gr8Guyn2008,

No, you're not the only one.
I think a little personalization goes a long way.
It takes two seconds to add it to an email.
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Gr8Guy,
Ditto that.

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I think it depends on the relationship and the stage of interaction and the reason for the communication. If I'm writing an email for work then I nearly always include a salutation. But, especially if I'm having an ongoing "conversation" with someone via email, I certainly don't add a salutation or closing every time. And, if I send a short note to a friend like "See you tonite at 7:00," I don't feel that I have to include either of our names in the note...

I don't typically include someone's name in the body of an email to them, just as I don't typically say someone's name when I'm conversing with them face-to-face.

With a note in OC, I would think it fine to begin it with just a "Hi" and not write out the person's name. Adding a closure is good because then the reader can be sure that you actually meant to end the note there...lol.
 
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Agreed Gr8,
It's a pet peeve of mine. I let close friends of mine off the hook on this one since, well, I know they know me.
Like neardc, if it's an ongoing/continuous email string, of course. But to start a message without personalizing it with a name or a salutation is rude IMO.
 
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My Dearest Gr8Guyn2008,

I'm 44, and I usually date guys in their 50s. When we start communicating through the site, I almost always forget to tell them my name, and they have to ask. A little embarassing, but I forget a lot of things. My friend calls it the Absent Minded Professor syndrome.

I've noticed that the majority of the men I exchange emails with will include the names on the first email of an exchange. It definitely isn't the rule, but I'm on the left coast, so things are a little more casual here anyway.

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The internet scammers, who send out dozens or hundreds of messages at once would NEVER take the time to personalize them, John.


Even though YOU should personalize them, though admittedly THAT endeavor gets tedious. Matter of numbers.

You could meet someone online, or IRL, on advice, anywhere.

^^^^Or so I keep telling myself. lololololol

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neardc wrote :
I think it depends on the relationship and the stage of interaction and the reason for the communication. If I'm writing an email for work then I nearly always include a salutation. But, especially if I'm having an ongoing "conversation" with someone via email, I certainly don't add a salutation or closing every time. And, if I send a short note to a friend like "See you tonite at 7:00," I don't feel that I have to include either of our names in the note...

I don't typically include someone's name in the body of an email to them, just as I don't typically say someone's name when I'm conversing with them face-to-face.

With a note in OC, I would think it fine to begin it with just a "Hi" and not write out the person's name. Adding a closure is good because then the reader can be sure that you actually meant to end the note there...lol.
Interesting that you mention this. I know people that do use the persons name in the body of e-mails and also people that use the persons name while speaking to them. I might add that these people are in sales of some sort.
 
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Dear Gr8Guyn2008,
Sorry to say that this is very common in today's age...everything is getting shorter and shorter and more impersonal. Maybe people we are too busy as we try to answer and post all those messages from FB, Twitter, texts messages, EH advice etc...as well as keep up with the other things in our life. I'm not one of those people...hence why I am here on a Friday night Definitely a person who personalizes gets more points in my book...but then I'm a bit of an old fashioned young blood You know what is worse....finding out your nephew got hit by a cab because he posted it on FB! Now that is really impersonal!!! He's on my bad list.

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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I know people that do use the persons name in the body of e-mails and also people that use the persons name while speaking to them. I might add that these people are in sales of some sort.
I agree with that. For that reason, I find it very unappealing when people do this in person or in writing/email. I view it as their attempt to be dominant, or to talk down to me.

As for salutations? I can take it or leave it. Doesn't matter.
 
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