How much lateness do you tolerate?


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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #21  August 27,2009, 6:41pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
My next husband is 5 years late!

How rude is that? I might just tell him that it's not acceptable when I finally meet him.
And then how late will that make him since that won't be the one
 
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I am always early. I also have a great deal of patience.

The rule in college was you waited 10 minutes for an instructor and 15 minutes for a full professor. What does that have to do with dating, I have no idea. I have waited an hour for a match to arrive. But most all my matches have been right on time.
 
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Others have mentioned that being habitually late shows a lack of respect and consideration.

To me, it also shows a more basic problem with simply being organized. If you are unwilling to put the thoughts together that "the party starts at 8... it takes 30 minutes to get there, and 30 minutes to get ready... hey, I'd better start getting ready around 7", then you may not be organized in other areas of life, either.
 
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I grew up with a mom that was late to everything and she has been like that all her life according to my grandparents. She is extremely reliable and organized in every other area of her life. Because of this I hate being late but as I have matured I have learned to be understanding of others and realize "life" happens to everyone, usually when you least expect it.

If tardiness happens on a consistent basis I would have to discuss it with a partner and how it would make me feel over the long term. If it happens every now and then (with a phone call about what is going on) I can be flexible.
 
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melman wrote :
Others have mentioned that being habitually late shows a lack of respect and consideration.

To me, it also shows a more basic problem with simply being organized. If you are unwilling to put the thoughts together that "the party starts at 8... it takes 30 minutes to get there, and 30 minutes to get ready... hey, I'd better start getting ready around 7", then you may not be organized in other areas of life, either.
I think you are right on the mark. I am thinking of three people in my life who are always, always, always late and all three of them exibit that lack of respect for other people's time (not even trying to be on time and then making up lies about why they are late), and total disorganization in other areas of their lives. Like if you walk into their homes or offices they are a mess and they are always looking for stuff.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #26  August 28,2009, 3:49am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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[quote=yoga_gal;722875]I grew up with a mom that was late to everything and she has been like that all her life according to my grandparents.



Yes. Some of us are congenitally late, we inherited from our parents. The world should go easy on us in this respect since it's not entirely our fault.
 
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jayjay wrote :
If she's more than 3 weeks late I start getting worried.
HAHAHAHHA!!!!!!
 
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When I was younger I was always late for everything. I just lose track of time. I am a lot better now, but I give people a lot of slack if they are a little late--it's only fair.

But, everyone has a cell phone and if the lateness is actually going to be really late (more than 15 minutes), I would think it incredibly rude not to phone and give an update and apology.

Everyone gets stuck in traffic, can't find a parking spot or makes a wrong turn now and then. I don't see it as disrespectful if someone is late unless they don't call and let you know what's going on (so your standing or sitting there like a dope wondering if you've been stood up)!
 
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