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timeless2 Post #121 August 28,2009, 6:48am

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trixie1868 wrote :

This is your OP talking.

I don't give a damn about weight, I don't have a problem, I was just clowning. Mostly it was the women who got this.

But I will say this

THE MEN WHO HAVE THE BIGGEST PROBLEM WITH CURVIER WOMEN ARE THE MOST DEFENSIVE & BORING ON THIS THREAD.

diets......excercise..........gym........self respect.......serves you right........my expectations........blah, blah, blah, blah.

Such an easy filter system to seperate the good from the sad. I actually might consider gaining 20lb and use my fat as a moron shield!

Enjoy your cakes ladies

I like that... a shield... a great big fat filter.

tumbleweed Post #122 August 28,2009, 7:39am

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HappyandLight wrote :

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Of course there are those relationships that are based on true friendship and go beyond looks BUT I bet Ms. Bronson, when she attracted Pierce was a hotty and he grew to love her...but he had to have the attraction first.

There is no denying that men who have more to offer have more choices with women. And women who are slimmer have much more choices.

It doesn't make it right...we didn't write the rules...but attraction is attraction...and I am sure you have your attraction ideals, too.

So why not do your best to play the game instead of fighting the tide?

so simple but when the rose colorsd glasses come off then youl be able to see the true beuity of the one you are atracted to, some may never understand the saying that love is blind,,you say you can see ,,but can you realy, a diamond in the rough looks like a peace of plan glass except to the trained eye who can tell the differance

graceventually Post #123 August 28,2009, 7:40am

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You go, girl!! (and chawks, too)

sheera007 Post #124 August 28,2009, 11:41am

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trixie1868 wrote :

This is your OP talking.

I don't give a damn about weight, I don't have a problem, I was just clowning.

Actually, I think its pretty rude to start a thread just to get a reaction & stir things up.
And then to talk down to people, as though they're idiots for falling for it??

Of course, people took it seriously. This IS a serious topic/issue for a lot of people. Many women ARE genuinely concerned about their weight and how/if it will affect their dating. And many do start serious threads on the subject.

trixie1868 wrote :

THE MEN WHO HAVE THE BIGGEST PROBLEM WITH CURVIER WOMEN ARE THE MOST DEFENSIVE & BORING ON THIS THREAD.

Some were very rude, but most were not.
Funny how some men are blasted

for simply answering a question, when the answer is NOT what people want to hear.
While other men are praised

for simply answering the same question, when the answer IS what people want to hear.

trixie1868 wrote :

diets......excercise..........gym...............bl ah, blah, blah, blah.

Yeah, what a ridiculous concept. Feed your body well and work it out properly. What were they thinking?? Crazy people....

trixie1868 wrote :

Such an easy filter system to seperate the good from the sad. I actually might consider gaining 20lb and use my fat as a moron shield!

That would be as good of an excuse as any I've ever heard...

trixie1868 wrote :

Enjoy your cakes ladies

I enjoy my cakes very much, thank you.

I just choose not to enjoy them very often.

and yes, people around here do have senses of humor... when something is funny. A disingenuous set-up thread, is not really all that funny

...
but then... maybe I'm just one of those people with "no sense of humor".

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kevin76 Post #125 August 28,2009, 11:50am

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trixie1868 wrote :

wow...good thing nobody else here is defensive, or childish in their name-calling and blanket accusations...

8/10 - that was a pretty good troll, I must admit. You lost points for the finish though, that was clumsy.

kiss_that_frog Post #126 August 28,2009, 12:01pm

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trixie1868 wrote :

Seriously how much extra are you ok with?

a dress size? two dress sizes? the size of two dresses?

Come on be honest, is weight as big an issue as we women fear it may be. Let us know quick so we can eat that last cup cake .... or not.

So you use language like the first and third sentences (in the above quote) and you expect us to not take this seriously? Please!

I don't want to flame, but that attitude is assinine. What are you going to think when your SO tells you he's been sleeping around, but then a week later says oh wait... I was just kidding.

This whole thread is like yelling "fire!" in a crowded theater.

flgal Post #127 August 28,2009, 1:31pm

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hazmat wrote :

I love doughnuts, could eat them with every meal...but I don't. There are lots of things i'd love to chow down on...but I don't. Sometimes I don't feel like running or exercising...but I do it anyway. Being in shape isn't that difficult, but it does take a little sacrifice. We as a country, used to make that sacrifice. But now, with every third person being obese, it's brought a certain sense of acceptability. When I was growing up kids used to pick on the "fat kid". (yeah...kids are cruel) Now...you'd be outnumbered. That's a little scary.

The bottom line, is that if i'm going to stay in shape through sacrifice and hard work, my SO should be of a somewhat similar mindset. A fluctuation is fine, but there should be downs with the ups.

I thought cops were the ones who LOVE doughnuts! lol! JK!

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HappyandLight Post #128 August 28,2009, 1:53pm

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I don't think you got what I was saying. Men need to be at least somewhat attracted physically before they can fall in love and love the whole person. Actually, both sides need a reason to get to know someone.

And please don't assume I don't know about inner beauty. My man has a belly, hair is thinning but I am with him. But I tell you, he loves me BUT if he weren't attracted to me physically, it would have never happened...he needs both. Inner beauty and physical attraction.

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sheera007 wrote :

Actually, I think its pretty rude to start a thread just to get a reaction & stir things up.
And then to talk down to people, as though they're idiots for falling for it??

for simply answering a question, when the answer is NOT what people want to hear.
While other men are praised

for simply answering the same question, when the answer IS what people want to hear.

Yeah, what a ridiculous concept. Feed your body well and work it out properly. What were they thinking?? Crazy people....

That would be as good of an excuse as any I've ever heard...

I enjoy my cakes very much, thank you.

I just choose not to enjoy them very often.

and yes, people around here do have senses of humor... when something is funny. A disingenuous set-up thread, is not really all that funny

...
but then... maybe I'm just one of those people with "no sense of humor".

It is true that most of the threads on this subject are serious. I thought this one was intitially; and eventually caught on.

That being said, I think most of the "serious" threads on it are somewhat laughable, actually. I know lots of happily married people of all shapes and sizes....and many of them are not the same shapes and sizes they entered the marriage in, so a bunch of folks saying "Ewww....I won't date this size or that" are a little hard to take seriously, no? Probably why size is not included in eH's 29 dimensions, although energy level is.

Or perhaps I am just stressed about my wedding and getting hysterical and now everything, including this thread, strikes me as funny. With the kind of week I am having, this is quite possible. Carry on

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graceventually wrote :

That being said, I think most of the "serious" threads on it are somewhat laughable, actually.

I don't think they're "laughable" to those who have serious concerns about their weight, and who pose it as a serious question. They are asking for opinions/answers. Do they get the answers they're looking for? Who knows?

One thing to keep in mind (for those who complain about "yet another thread" on the topic) is that most of the people, who start such threads, are fairly new to the forum... and don't realize that there are already a bzillion similar threads here. Give 'em frickin' a break already! They are simply expressing valid concerns.

Nobody is forcing anyone to read or comment. Those who are so annoyed by it, are free to choose NOT to click on.
Enter at own risk - the title is usually a dead giveaway.

graceventually wrote :

I know lots of happily married people of all shapes and sizes....and many of them are not the same shapes and sizes they entered the marriage in, so a bunch of folks saying "Ewww....I won't date this size or that" are a little hard to take seriously, no?

They were asked. They didn't just pop up out of nowhere and start stating their preferences.

And yes... People of all shapes and sizes find love, have love, are happily married, etc. But the topics, here, are most usually about initial attraction.

Are some people attracted to overweight people? Yes.
Are some people not particularly attracted to overweight people, but are willing to "accept" or "overlook" excess bodyfat because they like/love someone? Yes.
Do some people take their health & fitnesss very seriously and look for the same in a potential partner? Yes.

There is nothing wrong with any-of-the-above, as long as it is stated truthfully and respectfully.

There is nothing wrong with a person for not being initially attracted to overweight people but... there is something wrong with demonizing people for simply being overweight, and for the lifestyles which contribute to their excess bodyfat.
On the flip-side...

... It is just as wrong for overweight people to demonize those who place great importance on their health & fitness.... and to deem them all shallow, superficial, etc. A lot of that goes on in these threads too. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have a beautiful, finely-tuned, well-maintained physique. Its not only about looks. Yes, looking good is part of it... a very big part... but its not the only part. The health benefits are endless!!! Both the short-term and long-term benefits.

Fact is: People will be attracted to whomever/whatever they will. All the arguing and demonizing isn't going to change that.

graceventually wrote :

Or perhaps I am just stressed about my wedding and getting hysterical and now everything, including this thread, strikes me as funny.

Congrats and best wishes and all that!

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