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OK so i just met this wonderful lady and she said she wants to get to know me more but take it slow and let things happen naturally? Can anyone clarify what that means by meaning just hanging out and getting to know each other or what?
 
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It probably means she just wants to be friends and she really has no intention of being physical with you... Unless you are completely awesome and she really likes to be around you, and her biological clock is about to end - and she has no other options (desperation).

Or if she suddenly breaks up with her badboy boyfriend and drinks too much, and blames it on the alcohol.

Usually a girl will know if she wants to have relations with a guy within the first hour. Otherwise, you are just a "friend", unless those things happen. There are RARE occasions where this is not the case...

Women who say otherwise are just denying it, just like how guys say they want to be with a woman for her personality. Sure a guy likes a girl's personality, but if she doesn't look great (no mutual attraction)... she is just a friend. Same with guys.

If you read the "how useful is the advice here" thread, you will understand that while my opinions may vary GREATLY from a majority of the posters on this site - these opinions are probably the norm in the real world.

Well, just be her friend anyways, who knows what kind of friends she'll have - or if she'll turn around some day. Just don't be a punching bag and buy her a car or something.
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TroyL65 wrote :
OK so i just met this wonderful lady and she said she wants to get to know me more but take it slow and let things happen naturally? Can anyone clarify what that means by meaning just hanging out and getting to know each other or what?
It's vague woman talk


To me, it seems like take things "slow" and let things happen "naturally" translates as (I like you; however, I haven't been instantly swept off my feet. Perhaps, I'll wait and see if feelings for you develop).
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Let things happen "naturally" refers to how things happen in "nature". Meaning, you display your colors and fight with all the males and if you're still alive you pounce on her. (Bad choice = jail time)
 
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It means that there isn't an instant spark, but she thinks you are a good guy and likes you so she is willing to see if the relationship might develop into something more over time. No guarantees...

Contrary to what the above poster claims, many women have the experience of having their attraction to a man develop over time -- not just within the first hour.
 
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KungFuFtr wrote :
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Let things happen "naturally" refers to how things happen in "nature". Meaning, you display your colors and fight with all the males and if you're still alive you pounce on her. (Bad choice = jail time)
LMAO! Too funny...
 
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neardc wrote :
Contrary to what the above poster claims, many women have the experience of having their attraction to a man develop over time -- not just within the first hour.
This means that they couldn't find better and had to settle. Which was one of my scenarios where it meant that she would end up with the "friend".

If a sexy Brad Pitt clone just happened to walk into her life while she was getting to know you, sorry - you'll just have to wait to be the rebound (scenario 2).

Just make sure to slash all the tires of the guys that try to make a move on her... and don't get caught!
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neardc wrote :
It means that there isn't an instant spark, but she thinks you are a good guy and likes you so she is willing to see if the relationship might develop into something more over time. No guarantees...

Contrary to what the above poster claims, many women have the experience of having their attraction to a man develop over time -- not just within the first hour.

Yep...women need to connect. And yes physical attraction is important (more so for some than others), but they NEED to connect.
Maybe there is some wisdom to that....
 
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I never said rapport wasn't important.

Physical attraction + no rapport = one night stand

Physical attraction + rapport = lover

No physical attraction + rapport = best friend
(unless scenario 1 or 2 happen)
 
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The flaw in your argument, Tom, is that physical attraction is often not instantaneous for many women; it can develop over time as someone becomes dear. No matter how "hot" Brad Pitt may be, that's not enough to make him a distraction. It's not a matter of "settling."

But, there have been countless pages on these boards on this topic, so no need to hijack this one from the OP's question.
 
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