Sorry for the rambling post. I met a woman a three times I met on eH a couple months ago. She made me feel uncomfortable pretty often.

1. She showed up late every time we met, including 45 minutes late the last time we met.

2. At the first meeting she said "Oh, I thought you would be taller." as we stood up to leave. Uhhh, I was truthful on my profile but thanks for questioning my honesty.

3. After buying her dinner she offered to pay for drinks at the bar afterwards and didn't tip the waitress at all. Not for bad service, don't some people here say you should watch how your date treats service staff...

4. 37 and still lives at home, because she "really likes spending time with her dad."

5. After our first meeting I sent her my first email (not guided communications), she sent three emails within a day including one "to check if I got her email" because she was having issues with her Internet connection.

6. For the final meeting she offered to take me to dinner because she had a gift card for a nice restaurant. After showing up 45 minutes late, she tells me on the way to dinner that she forgot the gift card and "what's your budget"?

7. At dinner I told her that I was going to be busy at work because I was going away for a long weekend the next weekend, but would be interested in meeting the coming weekend. She emailed me the next day and told me she wouldn't be able to meet on the coming Saturday. (Uhh, so you didn't listen when I said I wouldn't be around on the weekend.)

8. I emailed her to remind her that I was going to be out of town for the weekend. She emailed and wished me a good trip. Then a couple days later sent "So you e-mailed me....does this mean I get to see you when you're back in town?"

I was iffy on seeing her again before that question. For some reason it just pushed me to the no side. I emailed her and told her I wasn't interested in meeting her again, in part because she made me feel uncomfortable on a few occasions.

She then emailed me three long emails in a day. All of the emails stating that she wanted feedback, and could never become a better person without it. In the longest of the emails she gave me her feedback. She then left me a voicemail asking me for feedback and said that she would give me feedback ... only if I felt comfortable receiving it - after sending me her feedback.

The final email had "I am just curious--did I come across as too needy?" Uh, yeah...

I haven't communicated with her since. I never feel comfortable 'poofing' so I thought it was a good thing to email her. Perhaps, I shouldn't have told her she made me feel uncomfortable. I feel no obligation to give her feedback, and I think any honest feedback I would give her would be very difficult to hear. I don't feel any obligation to 'help' her, and think sending her the farewell email was all she deserved.

Thoughts?