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beentherehavetee is offline beentherehavetee Post #1  August 26,2009, 2:04pm
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but he still has lots of stories to tell about when they did this and when they did that. But he swears that he hates her guts! Apparently, she left him for someone else. One day he came home and she was gone! It's been over 5 years...what gives? Quit talking about your ex already! Geesh.

Continue on, or next!?
 
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If it's right or wrong doesn't matter and isn't the question. What matters is the annoyance it causes you.
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Next! Passion - even in its negative form - is still passion. He either still has feelings for his ex, or he hasn't healed emotionally from the break-up. Either way he's no good for you in this state. Move on!
 
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Next, it seems that that man never took the time to heal emotionally and has had these angry negative emotions festering in himself for the past few years. Save yourself the trouble, find someone without this sort of baggage

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My ex-boyfriend had an ex he talked about a lot, sometimes in a positive way, sometimes in a negative way. They had been apart for over 2 years. I continued with not wanting to hear the little voice that tried to tell me it was wrong that he talked about her so much. After over 2 years of dating he told me they still had feelings for one another, that his ex was moving back in, that they would give it another try.
Of course I don't know if it's the same in your case, but I think your boyfriend still has feelings for his ex as well and that it's time to move on.
 
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He's wasting YOUR time as well as his. Saddle up and ride for daylight.
 
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flgal is offline flgal Post #7  August 26,2009, 4:43pm
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I would say to move on. It sounds like the the legal divorce has taken place, but the emotional divorce is still in progress. A friend of mine told me about a quote in a book she read recently. Your post made me think of it...."The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference". If he "hates" his ex wife, that means he still has feelings for her.
 
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I guess you could say something to him about it... or you could post a message to a forum, never say anything to him and just dump him!
 
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Yeah next... and no skipping...
 
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mikeinor wrote :
I guess you could say something to him about it... or you could post a message to a forum, never say anything to him and just dump him!
Whatever...

If folks like me never posted, you won't have anything to read, right?

Thanks folks. It seems I'm right on. I mentioned it to him and he asked, "Whatever gave you that idea? You are so wrong." Should I say...denial...denial.

I think it's like the OP said he has not yet healed emotionally from the break up or maybe he still wants her...I don't know. From what I was told, the break up was a bad one. Five + years later, the anger still rages on. Go figure.
 
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