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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #1  August 26,2009, 1:33am
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Had the neat 1st date last weekend.


We met at pub late afternoon. Both on time. She turned out prettier that her photo. Dressed fantastically! We had a drink and chatted. Stayed on dinner. Talked about those things you shouldn’t; ex partners, religion, work, families, child rearing (we’ve a few each). She’s bright, funny and adventurous.


[FONT=Arial][FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][COLOR=darkslateblue]I also had tickets to see a jazz band and she agreed to accompany me. Didn’t mind taking a bus. Or having to be introduced to other folk she didn’t know. Band was great. They played late. I then had to skiff off as had commitments early morning.
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You are over analyzing... relax. Ask yourself this question: Do you want her to go with you? Yes or No? If yes, then ask her. Have fun and let the rest take care of itself.
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dalejrfan88 is offline dalejrfan88 Post #3  August 26,2009, 4:24am
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Just have fun & enjoy yourself.This is dating...
Attractive women don't need to be with attractive guys.
I enjoy a witty guy who is fun to be around and she obviously enjoyed you AND she might just think you're attractive!
Looks aren't everything...there must have been a spark sooooooo get out there & enjoy and have fun at the musical!
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #4  August 26,2009, 4:25am
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Now what do I do? I mean if I ask her along Saturday she might think I’ve nothing better to do. Wouldn’t it be better to have decent interval. Might I just be hung on that she bright and attractive. Is that a basis for any relationship. And that she contacted me to say she had a good time. What does that say? Might she have something about being polite and communicating? I’m not kidding. She’s very attractive. Why is she acting like she is interested in me? If we go out again she might find out more about me. What’s her agenda here? What am I doing wrong?
oh behave!
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[FONT=Arial][FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][COLOR=darkslateblue]Now what do I do? I mean if I ask her along Saturday she might think I’ve nothing better to do. Wouldn’t it be better to have decent interval. Might I just be hung on that she bright and attractive. Is that a basis for any relationship. And that she contacted me to say she had a good time. What does that say? Might she have something about being polite and communicating? I’m not kidding. She’s very attractive. Why is she acting like she is interested in me? If we go out again she might find out more about me. What’s her agenda here? What am I doing wrong?
 
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Fleuellen wrote :
Why is she acting like she is interested in me? If we go out again she might find out more about me. What’s her agenda here? What am I doing wrong?
Yeah, that would be a bummer Good luck with it mate
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dalejrfan88 wrote :
Just have fun & enjoy yourself.AND she might just think you're attractive!
You're infereing I might not be. Goosh, that all I need. You're realy not getting it. She is very very attractive. If I have to relay on wits alone I'm sunk. It gets worse. She thinks I'm considerate. I didn't even cook my sons dinner tonight as i was late home (my middle son,17 did). And she goes to the gym at 6am. I wondering a couple of times a week of an evening.

I realise you're not taking me seriously. My sons have more experince at dating than I. I married quite young. That's another thing - my sons have been horried to anyone I like! Those with children know you can only keep kids and romantic intrests apart so long. Even tonight on the phone, I could hear her children asking who she was talking too.

Things are so much simpler when you don't have to bother with things like "second dates." Best to just put phone of hook, and shut down laptop.

Thanks for trying through.
 
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Fleuellen wrote :
You're infereing I might not be. Goosh, that all I need. You're realy not getting it. She is very very attractive. If I have to relay on wits alone I'm sunk. It gets worse. She thinks I'm considerate. I didn't even cook my sons dinner tonight as i was late home (my middle son,17 did). And she goes to the gym at 6am. I wondering a couple of times a week of an evening.

I realise you're not taking me seriously. My sons have more experince at dating than I. I married quite young. That's another thing - my sons have been horried to anyone I like! Those with children know you can only keep kids and romantic intrests apart so long. Even tonight on the phone, I could hear her children asking who she was talking too.

Things are so much simpler when you don't have to bother with things like "second dates." Best to just put phone of hook, and shut down laptop.

Thanks for trying through.

How about this - SHE IS HUMAN AND FLAWED just like you. So don't put her on this insane pedestal, don't feel like you have to live up to some crazy expectations - I guarantee you that she does not have any expectations of you and whatever compliment she paid you was a sincere observation and not an expectation for you to be flawless and perfect at all times. If you act like an adult and be who you are, you have a good chance - if you start putting on a show, pretending, trying to be mr. perfect - you don't have a chance. It's really that simple.
 
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Wait one cotton pickin' second!
Who's saying you're not attractive? You?

Darlin', you don't get a vote in this part--honestly.

SHE gets to be the one who decides if you are attractive or not. And I think she's been telling you all along that you are. She could've cleared off instead of going to hear music with you. She talked to you forever about important things, and she said she'd like to see you again. Then she's talking to you while her kids are present! Good Golly! so far you are doing just fine, IMO.

This is not Pollyanna talking. This is a living, breathing woman who "gets it" about being unsure and taking chances and sometimes getting royally hurt....but for those times one doesn't....it is worth the try, IMO.

Up to you. Take a chance on someone who's giving you one on a silver platter? Who, by her actions, is telling you she thinks you're worth her time? Or stay home and wonder what it might've been like? Please don't make her decision for her. Please give her the chance to say no....or yes!
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Fleuellen wrote :
You're infereing I might not be. Goosh, that all I need. You're realy not getting it. She is very very attractive. If I have to relay on wits alone I'm sunk. It gets worse. She thinks I'm considerate. I didn't even cook my sons dinner tonight as i was late home (my middle son,17 did). And she goes to the gym at 6am. I wondering a couple of times a week of an evening.

I realise you're not taking me seriously. My sons have more experince at dating than I. I married quite young. That's another thing - my sons have been horried to anyone I like! Those with children know you can only keep kids and romantic intrests apart so long. Even tonight on the phone, I could hear her children asking who she was talking too.

Things are so much simpler when you don't have to bother with things like "second dates." Best to just put phone of hook, and shut down laptop.
Remember me? The one you don't disagree with? Let's put it to the test.

So she's pretty...So what? Your pic says you're attractive (maybe not as pretty as her, but still!). Here online, you come across as witty to me. You offer not cooking dinner one night as proof you're not as considerate as she thinks? I've heard you mention the middle son cooking before. He probably enjoys it, and didn't feel it was an imposition! Differences of when you go to the gym? You probably have other differences as well. So what??

Your sons being horrid? Hasn't happened yet. You never know. Maybe they'd even like her...Wouldn't that be something?

We both agree about the "second dates." So much simpler to take the phone off the hook (if the sons would allow!), and shut down the laptop, not communicate further. BUT...What would that gain you?

So much simpler to reject her because she might reject you???

I say.....Nothing ventured, nothing gained!!!
 
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