What does one do when even Eharmony cant help?


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xythdemos is offline xythdemos Post #1  August 25,2009, 7:46pm
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eHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that participants fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process.
We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match.
Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time.




I have no idea what to do now. I've tried online dating and going out to try to locate someone. I don't know what else to do to find a good girl to spend some time with. I work a full time job that takes up quite a bit of my time so I'm unable to get out much.

I've taken my time with the test, answered Truthfully. I've also tried yahoo personals, true. com, match. com, singles. net, chemestry. com, and even gone so far as to try adultfriendfinder. com and craigslist, All with the same upsetting results. I've gone out, tried finding people like me and yet the only people i ever run into are couples (and i refuse to do whats been done to me... Ie stealing another persons girl). I dont have any friends at this point in my life. I work long days and have been in a depression for so long that most have just given up on me and moved on. I'm lost and at the end of my rope...
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dalejrfan88 is offline dalejrfan88 Post #2  August 25,2009, 8:08pm
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Wow!
Never knew that happened...
I hope you find a source that CAN help you.(O:
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joeyjoe is offline joeyjoe Post #3  August 25,2009, 11:26pm
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Take the profile test again. Choose better more confident answers.

Nice girls? Not sure if they exist anymore. Certainly not in online dating. As Pat Benatar said, Love is a battle field. As JoeyJoe says, online dating is thermonuclear warfare. It seems ladies, at least online, have this very thick leathery skin. Whereas in real life, they would usually give you an answer either way. Online, nah. They just blow you off without a second thought.
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Yep..take the test again and modify some of your answers. There are nice women and men out there (and for some reason they seem to end up with users that just drain them till there's almost nothing left).
 
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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #5  August 26,2009, 12:37am
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it wouldn't be the snake, could it?
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #6  August 26,2009, 12:51am
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Well... you might want to check out some of the free dating sites or other pay sites. Try to be on maybe 3-4, so you have a wide variety to choose from.
 
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For one.... retake the test again and this time around take your time with the answers and really think about them before clicking the buttons away.

Two....try other sites - EH is not the only one.

Three ...lose the snake in the picture - it will turn off 90% of women. Pet snake is something you should mention once she has warmed up to you and not before. Women will tolerate a lot if they like you, but first you have to get to the point where she really likes you.

Four....you are only 25 years old....go out with your friends, socialize, do stuff, at your age you really should not need the internet to meet people. Also, since you like games, what about all the gaming conventions - they are a total meat market full of like minded ladies looking to meet like minded guys.
 
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I agree with those who think you might be "snakebit". Lose that pic.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #9  August 26,2009, 5:51am
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Fleuellen wrote :
it wouldn't be the snake, could it?
Makes me run screaming from the room
 
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There are a couple of other sites that use a psychological test to match people. If this is of primary interest you may want to try Chemistry.

If you prefer to do your own searching then Match or Yahoo! Personals are a possibility.

I agree with the others that you may want to re-take the Questionnaire. Take the time to carefully consider each question. I would recommend planning on spending at least an hour and maybe two hours to take the Questionnaire. I would also suggest that you have a dictionary handy to look up the words used in the questions. What eHarmony is really asking is not the first or most common meaning for some of the words.

I find it odd that eHarmony would not be able to match 20% of the people.
 
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