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shoopthedoop is offline shoopthedoop Post #11  August 25,2009, 7:53am
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Oh, I was not doubting that he is a sometimes pastor - I am trying to reconcile someone that is a pastor to someone that is deceitful. The two don't jive for me so I am wondering if this was not an intentional error on his end.

Does that make sense???
Given the nature of being a real estate agent, I can't reconcile being a pastor at the same time...
 
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Many a person that had anything to do with real estate is working in some other line of work now. I am sure many expect to return to their former jobs in real extate when the market turns around.

If you have no problem with what he is doing now or a problem if he returns to real estate in the future then I don't see a problem. At least he is honest when asked and did go out and find a job rather than just be unemployed.
 
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Anyone who has tried to start up in real estate, mortgage, insurance etc, knows that (unless trust fund child or lottery winner) having multiple jobs is a given. Yes the world is full of liars. Kudos to those with open mind. The truth will always come out.

You can exist in your "safe" bubble, or take chances and (after less than month of dating) end up flying to Alaska, staying over a week at 5 star luxury resort enjoying full day Glacier Bay tour then full day private charter fishing/whale watching boat and a whole list of other fun things (see the hottie in my avitar?).
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As others pointed out, if he is indeed licensed to do those things and things fell through perhaps he got a temporary job and didn't change his occupation listing.

I wouldn't think anything of it at this point, if you enjoy the guys company does it matter if he is a doctor or a garbage man?
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
How long ago did he write his profile? In this economy it would not be surprising to be out of work as either a real estate agent or a loan closer, so he probably took the shipping job to make ends meet.

Updating his job title on his profile probably slipped his mind, or he considers his current employment situation temporary and plans to get back to his main line of work when the economy improves.
I agree with Wonderwoman402 on this one. In this economy, there are many real estate agents/loan closers working extra jobs, or new jobs altogether, to make ends meet until the market improves. He probably put this information in his profile a while ago and forgot to update it, or plans to return to that line of work when able.
 
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stevex wrote :
As others pointed out, if he is indeed licensed to do those things and things fell through perhaps he got a temporary job and didn't change his occupation listing.

I wouldn't think anything of it at this point, if you enjoy the guys company does it matter if he is a doctor or a garbage man?
Which brings up the perilous / dichotomous / slippery slope question: (as a male) do we really want to cut out of the pool those for which it does matter?

For me: call me elitist, but there are certain "professions" (or lack there of) which cast severe peril on match / potential date's probability of progress to "next stage." Quite silly, but I actually almost did not even consider Laura because her profile (she posted several pictures from equestrian competitions) gave me perception of being overly "elitist." Although she can be quite polished: multiple dressage champion and professional: as a neck and back injury specialist, I figured she was quite knowledgeable, but was in awe when she very professionally confronted / questioned my Doctor's (being treated for herniated/torn L4/5, S1/L5 discs) staff, she can also be incredibly down to earth, get dirty, hard working person : from cleaning the barn at 4AM to reeling in over 300lbs of Halibut, she is incredible.
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
Let's face it, job titles mean something to us when we are checking out profiles and the men know this so I can see someone being a little creative with what they do. However, being a little creative is different than being misleading.
I have a question about job titles, now that you have brought it up. On my profile, I listed my job title as "Engineer". My actual job title is Chief Technologist. I'm actually a fairly senior engineer at a large high-tech firm. I put "Engineer" because "Chief Technologist at a large high-tech firm" sounded kind of pretentious. What do you think?
 
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MarkInAustin wrote :
I have a question about job titles, now that you have brought it up. On my profile, I listed my job title as "Engineer". My actual job title is Chief Technologist. I'm actually a fairly senior engineer at a large high-tech firm. I put "Engineer" because "Chief Technologist at a large high-tech firm" sounded kind of pretentious. What do you think?
For me personally, I prefer the more humble title over the pretentious so yours sounds fine to me. But that is how I am built and I do the same thing. My title on my (though inactive) profile is vague and is really more my industry than my job title. Once someone asks, than I would go into more detail.
 
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neardc wrote :
The fact that he told you what his full-time job is suggests that it's not something he's trying to hide. It's certainly natural to ask someone about their work/career as you're getting to know them, though, so just ask him some additional questions if you want to find out more about his work history...

If he said on his profile that he's a physician, but he actually stocks shelves in the neighborhood grocer store, that would be a different situation as he would clearly be lying in that case to create a false impression and elevate his status.

I confess that I have absolutely no idea what I listed as my occupation when I created my eH profile a couple of years ago and don't know if it's still accurate...lol. Since we don't have the ability to view our profiles it's harder to notice that we need to update it if our status changes in some way...
Excuse me? Your a volunteer member and do not realize you have every opportunity to review your profile and update it??? And are telling other members this? I am confused??
 
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Excuse me? Your a volunteer member and do not realize you have every opportunity to review your profile and update it??? And are telling other members this? I am confused??
eHa and eharmony are completely different things. NearDC is a community leader here at eHadvice.

Does that clarify it for you?
 
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