Break-up Cause BF Joins Health Club?


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Skyking6976 is offline Skyking6976 Post #1  August 24,2009, 1:47pm
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Decided to start working out a month ago when a friend said he was joining a health club. We go together every day for at least an hour, 1.5 hours every other day working with a trainer. I'm one pound short of reaching my goal of a 15 pound loss (with a little help from the doc) and my friend isn't far behind.

Well, I was having dinner last weekend with my friend and his girlfriend. Told them I like working out and want to stay with it to get ripped. My friend's girlfriend started on this tirade because she'd read that more men get one night stands when they are all toned up and turned on her boyfriend and asked if he was working out to move on to greener pastures. Geez, she was out of control. My friend is very happy with her as far as I know and is just working out to be more healthy. Told him just to reassure her, do something extra nice or whatever to get her under control. My friend had asked her if she'd like to join and she said no.

Anyone here ever heard of a couple breaking up over something like that? I thought my friend's girlfriend would be happy for us. You know something like, "I'm so proud of you two."
 
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I know some women at the gym who couldn’t convince their partners to go.
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Have they dated long? That sounds like a completely insecure irrational woman. No, nobody sane has ever broken up over someone going to the gym that I know of. If she isnt feeling good about herself she needs to do something about it, not suggest he should quit the gym to apease her insecurities. If this is a newer relationship I would take that as waring sign that she may be the jealous type, and that isnt healthy. stick with the gym, loose the girl.
 
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I agree with Kyra. The girl has some real self-esteem issues she needs to work on.
 
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I've been trying to get into a workout routine for a while and have a difficult time getting into it. My reasons are much more about overall health then getting a six pack. I'm pretty much a fat guy in a semi skinny guys body but am about 10-15 lbs heavier then I'd like and would rather get it down now then have to work on 50lbs in a few years.

I just started dating a woman and was sharing this with her and she started going on about liking guys that are slightly heavy set and that I should actually be putting meat on my bones. Very discouraging to have a partner discourage a heathy lifestyle.
 
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I haven't heard of a couple breaking up over this, but I can tell you that if I read in a guy's profile that he works out 1 - 2 hours EVERY DAY I am a little turned off and not all that likely to meet him.

Why? Because that amount of exercise is excessive and far beyond what is needed for a healthy lifestyle. It sounds obsessive and it sounds like he'll have little time left for dating or anything else.

I once was on the verge of setting up a meeting with a guy from a different online dating site. He was a college professor and worked about 5 minutes from my office, which is downtown and near several restaurants & bars where we could meet. When telling me his availability on a Friday night he mentioned that he'd be done working at 5:00 (same time as me), but would work out afterward and could meet me at 7:00. Excuse me?!? Make me wait two hours for our date/meet because he can't skip one lousy workout?!?

We never did meet, and I'm not sad.
 
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I agree … I would have definitely skipped going to the gym for one day to meet a Lady (duh!)
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Maybe he wanted his muscles to be bulging out for his date with you so that maybe you would be impressed with bulging biceps. Me man, grunt, grunt, you women, me big, me strong!! grunt, grunt.

When I was in the relationship with my xfiancee, we joined Golds Gym and would go almost every night. We lived within walking distance and would walk there and back. It is so much fun going with someone you love, you support each other to go that extra mile or 2. I gotta admit, I felt better and was getting pretty buff and so was she. It is nice to enjoy each others body progresses when you get home to. (grunt).
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I agree with those who say the girl has issues that she needs to work on.

I also agree with Wonderwoman402, if I have a match that mentions going to the gym that is pretty much a turn off for me.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I once was on the verge of setting up a meeting with a guy from a different online dating site. He was a college professor and worked about 5 minutes from my office, which is downtown and near several restaurants & bars where we could meet. When telling me his availability on a Friday night he mentioned that he'd be done working at 5:00 (same time as me), but would work out afterward and could meet me at 7:00. Excuse me?!? Make me wait two hours for our date/meet because he can't skip one lousy workout?!?

We never did meet, and I'm not sad.
Wow, you get upset over him wanting to meet up 2 hours after work and workout?

I agree the guy probably should have just skipped the workout for that night, but 2 hours isn't all that long to go the club, workout, shower, and get to where you plan to meet.

Lets say the club is 15 minutes away from work...

1) 15 minutes - Drive TO the club.
2) 45 minutes - Workout.
3) 30 minutes - Shower, shave, cologne, dress, etc for the date to impress you.
4) 15 minutes - Drive back TO wherever you plan to meet.
5) 15 minutes - Time "Safety Net". Nothing worse then showing up late for that first meeting/date.

That doesn't seem horrible at all to me.

Especially since you never know when you get to the club, whether you will need to wait a bit for a certain machine or not.

Again, he should have just skipped the workout for the night, but on the other hand, you being offended about meeting 2 hours after work? Thats just as bad.
Especially since I imagine you would want to go home and shower/dress up as well, right?
 
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