First call midnight on a Saturday night?


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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #1  August 23,2009, 10:29am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Last night at 12:30 am a friend and I were leaving a beachside bar (gotta love SE Texas) when I got a first call from a woman on Match. She had asked for my tel # in a message and I had sent it to her a few days earlier.

I told her on the phone that she was pretty bold to be calling for the first time after midnight on a Saturday night. She proceeded to tell me for several minutes how she had been doing research on the martial art that I teach (I'd mentioned in a message) and went on about how she was really interested in it, how I might best recruit students to train at the university etc. I told her I hope you're interested in me and not just the martial art.

Does this call/conversation strike you as unusual or odd?
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #2  August 23,2009, 10:38am
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Ummm... was she drunk? Or, confused and in another time zone...lol?
 
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boccabum is offline boccabum Post #3  August 23,2009, 10:40am
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Yes. She did a drunk dial on her first call, huh? Gotta go down from there.

That was really bold of her to call you so late. Red flag. No sense of reasonable boundaries.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  August 23,2009, 10:44am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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She didn't sound drunk....just a little 'manic'. Also wasn't in another time zone....it turns out she lives quite close to where I do (uh oh). lol
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #5  August 23,2009, 10:44am
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If it really bothered you that she called that late than I would express to her. Otherwise, you happened to be awake and so no biggie my book. Of course, the conversation seemed a bit out of the blue for 12:30 in the morning, but maybe she had it on her mind, wanted an excuse to talk to you, or was indeed under the influence of alcohol.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #6  August 23,2009, 10:47am
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No names or phone numbers or email addresses until after at least the second meeting.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #7  August 23,2009, 10:50am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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melman wrote :
No names or phone numbers or email addresses until after at least the second meeting.
...then I guess bodily fluids are out of the question.
 
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BLESS77 is offline BLESS77 Post #8  August 23,2009, 10:55am
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LOL ya'll are hilarious!

Hmm but if you mentioned you were a night person and she could call you anytime, maybe she took that literally.

As far as the topic of conversation: Maybe she likes you and didn't have a piece of paper with "Do you like me? Check yes or no" readily available.
 
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JoyfulVA is offline JoyfulVA Post #9  August 23,2009, 11:00am
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Oh Gosh - I am imagining a poor woman who really wanted to talk with you but was really nervous about making that call (many of us can make such an issue of it!!). So she figured out something that she might be able to actually "help" with (did you mention you were looking for ideas for recruiting?) and bolstered her courage to finally make the call. Some people really overwork it all in their minds (been there/done that) and then get so exasperated with their own silliness that they just make a move to end the torment and get on with it. She did overstep the boundaries for sure but you do have some (albeit small) history with her to judge if she is just nervous or actually bit loony.
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #10  August 23,2009, 11:01am
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It seems to me that she has a lack of respect for anyone other than herself. After you told her how bold she was, she dismissed your statement completely and continued on as if your thoughts about her late night call meant nothing--that's never a good sign. She obviously has no sense of social grace whatsoever. That kind of thing does not improve with time.

Regardless of her reason for calling so late, unless you want to tattoo WELCOME to your forehead and literally be her doormat, I'd dismiss her in much the same way that she dismissed your statement about the call.

Sorry to sound harsh, but I just can't stand it when people act this way.
 
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