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I'm afraid of catching sexual diseases. Is it okay to ask a guy to get tested before I will have sex with him?
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:34 am
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Yes...of course.
And it's more than OK to require them to wear condoms and keep some available if he doesn't have any. You also should be prepared to tell him you've been tested and the results.
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:37 am
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Absolutely!
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:40 am
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It's stupid NOT to ask him.
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:40 am
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Yes.
Sleeping with one partner at a time may also help. And try using protection, especially when sleeping with guys you have not even met yet.

Special Request: Can you please combine all this sexual freedom of yours into one thread, just to prevent my head from spinning. Thanks.
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:41 am
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It's fine to ask as long as you don't mind him asking you to do the same. But the question comes to mind, that if there's an issue of trust, maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with the person. Because once he's tested, most likely, he'll have to verbally tell you what the doctor said. Not all doctors write letters with that kind of information. Usually, it's a verbal call to say everything is fine. And if it's a disease that has recently been contracted, it might not even show up in the bloodstream at the time of testing. And how often would you want him tested? He might be fine today, but not in two weeks if he's still sleeping around with others. Using protection isn't 100%, but aside from saying "no", it's the safest thing to do.
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:43 am
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Absolutely!
It is routine for me to do that and some men have said NO, and of course I said than no sex and others have done it right away.
My ex got tested 3x before I started sleeping with him. I always have updated test results to share also.
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:46 am
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Yes.

The thing is, even if his test results are negative, it is always best to make it a habit to wear protection because for some diseases, such as HPV, which is for life, there is currently no publicly test available for men. There is a vaccine available for women, but even that only covers four out of more than 60 strains of HPV.

Also make sure his test include blood test for herpes (HSV) because some people carry the virus and transmit it the others without knowing it since they have never seen the symptoms. And blood test is the only way to know whether or not they have it.
- August 23rd, 2009, 09:49 am
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parakeetjordan wrote :
I'm afraid of catching sexual diseases. Is it okay to ask a guy to get tested before I will have sex with him?
Yes, it's not only ok it's sensible.
- August 23rd, 2009, 10:00 am
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EMTZ wrote :
Yes.

Also make sure his test include blood test for herpes (HSV) because some people carry the virus and transmit it the others without knowing it since they have never seen the symptoms. And blood test is the only way to know whether or not they have it.
I saw some statistics for that online recently, it was more than a little worrying, one out of five in men and one out of four in women, the difference being because infection is more efficient in women. I couldn't see anything about the numbers of people who don't present symptoms, but even if it's only a fraction that's a lot of people.
- August 23rd, 2009, 10:13 am
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