Is it okay to ask a guy to get tested before I sleep with him?


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DreamingOfJustice is offline DreamingOfJustice Post #21  August 23,2009, 2:37pm
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Or of course..you could take the situation into your own control,,, go out and buy some of those very nifty ribbed condoms ..and decide this is the only way you will have intercourse until you can be sure you are in fact within a monogamous, HIV- relationship.

Surprised no-one mentioned condoms, but they are much better than hoping for the best, or hoping the would-be partner agrees (!!) to be tested..
 
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DreamingOfJustice wrote :
Surprised no-one mentioned condoms, but they are much better than hoping for the best, or hoping the would-be partner agrees (!!) to be tested..
There actually were a few condom sightings in this thread. We just don't know what the OP thinks of their usage.
 
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of course you can ...it won't mean a lot ... various sexual diseases won't show up on any test (HIV for a start out of the 3 month incubation period)... but to start off, get youself a sexual health check up and offer him the results ... goosh, he'll be pleased as punch
 
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parakeetjordan wrote :
I'm afraid of catching sexual diseases. Is it okay to ask a guy to get tested before I will have sex with him?
Seems the thing to do would be to go together and both get tested at the same time.
 
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boccabum wrote :
Yes...of course.
And it's more than OK to require them to wear condoms and keep some available if he doesn't have any. You also should be prepared to tell him you've been tested and the results.
Always!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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parakeetjordan wrote :
I'm afraid of catching sexual diseases. Is it okay to ask a guy to get tested before I will have sex with him?
It's the responsible thing to do - in this day of super-STD's you are well within your rights to have this type of mature discussion. This is also a good acid test for the guy - if he's into you for more than just a roll in the hay than he will have no problem with this (and most of us will respect you immensely for bringing it up).
 
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DreamingOfJustice wrote :
Or of course..you could take the situation into your own control,,, go out and buy some of those very nifty ribbed condoms ..and decide this is the only way you will have intercourse until you can be sure you are in fact within a monogamous, HIV- relationship.

Surprised no-one mentioned condoms, but they are much better than hoping for the best, or hoping the would-be partner agrees (!!) to be tested..
I didn't bring it up because I just assumed it was a given that safe sex would be practiced. I realize (yet again) that this cannot be assumed. You're correct for noting that glaring omission on all our parts!
 
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Mokkesofie wrote :
LOL, Would you buy a car without test driving it first?
i used to buy and sell cars , at the U.S. marshals auctions they dont even let you start them but if you know what to look for you can get some realy good deals
 
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JDavid wrote :
WAIT A MINUTE -- you people ARE talking about being married before s-e-x, aren't you?

You aren't going aginst church rules and Victorian principles, are you?
i could debate you this all day with your own bible but this isnt the church channel,
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Yes.
Sleeping with one partner at a time may also help. And try using protection, especially when sleeping with guys you have not even met yet.

Special Request: Can you please combine all this sexual freedom of yours into one thread, just to prevent my head from spinning. Thanks.
how?? do you do that i mean sleeping with a guy you havent even meet yet
 
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