pj33 is offline pj33 Post #1  August 22,2009, 6:17pm
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I've gone out on many e-harmony 1st dates and lately I have been more shy lately when it comes to the end of the night. Lately, I have been just giving my date a peck on the cheek or a hug.

Anyways, my question is do you actually kiss at the end of the first date? Meaning tongue.

I haven't lately, unless the girl was really flirtatious with me during our first date.

I guess the reason I stopped is because I get self-conscious. What if she doesn't like me and was just polite to me often crosses my mind? So, that is why I usually save it for a second date.

Anyways, I am just curious how most of you end the first date if you really liked your date.
 
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I tend to hug, at least.
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That completely depends on your date and how it went. There is no across the board answer to this. There are times when a passionate kiss is the the way to go and other dates where a handshake is more than enough. Usually, a guy can tell when a woman wants to be kissed and how.
 
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I would NEVER kiss on the first date. The problem with society today is that relationships move too fast (physically) and that makes extracting oneself from a relationship gone bad that much tougher.
 
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I generally don't kiss on the first date but not because I'm against it, shy, or worried about the implications of intimacy with someone I don't know. I don't kiss because the women expect me to try. When I don't and actually reject their advance with a "hey, slow down missy", it drives them crazy. By the time we get around to kissing, they very much like it because, well, it's been withheld until that moment.
That's just me, though. It works for me.
 
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[quote=D_Lion;718132]I tend to hug, at least.
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boccabum wrote :
I generally don't kiss on the first date but not because I'm against it, shy, or worried about the implications of intimacy with someone I don't know. I don't kiss because the women expect me to try. When I don't and actually reject their advance with a "hey, slow down missy", it drives them crazy. By the time we get around to kissing, they very much like it because, well, it's been withheld until that moment.
That's just me, though. It works for me.
what if she rejects your neat rule and kisses you on the first date against your expectations?
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
what if she rejects your neat rule and kisses you on the first date against your expectations?
HA! That's been attempted. Just like you, I won't get a pair of lips on mine without me issuing an invitation.
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boccabum wrote :
HA! That's been attempted. Just like you, I won't get a pair of lips on mine without me issuing an invitation.
Never say never! Life is full of wonderful surprises, some of which even involve moving a pair of lips or two
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Never say never! Life is full of wonderful surprises, some of which even involve moving a pair of lips or two
True that! But I never said...never!! And I've kissed enough ladies that patience and casual disinterest bring more excitement.

To the OP; If you're shy and unsure when to make a move...wait. She'll wonder why you aren't trying to do the same thing every other guy she's been on dates with does. Take one step forward and two steps back. By the second or third date, the tension you've built up will cause her to kiss you.
 
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