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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #21  August 23,2009, 8:03am
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My adolescent uses such terms. Its sweet. But at 48 it is just corney. I kinda get by with this is [insert name] ... and on few occasions they've graduated to "partner" and couple of times wife seemed appropriate. I seem to get referred to as "me" or a few too many times "get lost"
 
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this only my opinion,, ive never dated mor than one at a time, i have flerted with three or four at a time, by no means am i an expert on this and am subject to change, now my last girlfreind i meet on eharmony and we chatted for about two months befor our first datenow on i think it was our therd date i asked if she wanted to be my girlfreind she said yes so she went from being my freind pam to my girlfreind pam, now she hase gon back to being just my freind pam, now i think its pretty safe to say that most of us are here for the same reason, to find a wife or husband, im pretty streight forward so by the time im ready to ask you to be my girl freind im ready to put all i have into it and i would prefer to have some one who feels the same , if you like the outdoors and country living , ect, be my girlfreind, if not im not into mind games as i always lose, its kind of like this , if your in a relationship long enough you will come to the point where ones says to the other,,I LOVE YOU, by that point the other should be ready to respond the same, if not than the relationship most likly wont werk, love to me isnt something you can turn on and off like hot or cold water,,, it kind of like when i buy my garden hoses i always buy them at sears and only the ones with the lifetime UNCONDITIONAL GERANTEE, that way when i foget to put one away and wind up running over it with the brush hog and chopp it in ten pieces , i just take it back to sears and no questions asked i get a new one, now if i had bought that hose at wal-mart in a hurry and becuase it was cheaper id now have 10 smaller hoses that i couldnt use, like i said befor im no expert so all of this is subject to change except the sears unconditional garantee as for dateing there is no such thing as unconditional garantee so there is no perfect dating system, so there is always going to be some risk
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Spider wrote :
LOL. Well, significant other just sounds kinda meh to me. Partner is okay, but not quite it, either. We live together, so it's more than dating. We've used "fiance" at times, though that tends to get people overly excited, and the wedding's a long, long time away.

He once said, in a Pepe LePew voice, that he was my "lov-AIRE", and I like that- the effect on little old ladies and hip twenty-somethings is extraordinarily amusing.
That's awesome....I like the lov-AIRE.

To me, I see "partner" as a word that implies more of a commitment. Someone in a new relationship doesn't meet my criteria to be called a partner, but certainly if you are living together, you would have reached that level of commitment to fit what I think is implied by the word.
 
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PS. Oh, I like too see a gold cross on a chain hanging between a women's breast (nothing religious) I just fnd it sexy. Anyway, I've given such to those I'm most fonf off. That's twice. It's my thing. But the women concerned quickly worked out the significance. Oh, more elaborate jewellery ensued. I was always pleased when I noticed what was worn most. I don't think it mattered much what term was used for each other.
 
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jec30 wrote :
When do you do it and how important is it to you?

Had a girl I've dated three times call me up this morning and mention that she had told a friend about me and her friend asked her this (I'm 31 btw). I didn't reply, thinking that she would have told her friend that it was way too early for that, but she asked me. I never date more then one woman at a time for various reasons so it's not an issue of defining that we are not dating others, but I also just hate the terminology and consider it juvenile. Now that she asked me after three dates it's sending red flags. I told her that I don't date more then one person at a time and definitely want to see her again but I don't quite feel like we're an item yet either.

How important is it to call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend? This feels like a silly question but it's never really come up in my adult life.
Why don't you do what I did. Ask her to be exclusive, note that it's too early to be boyfriend/girlfriend, and go from there.
 
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Fleuellen wrote :
PS. Oh, I like too see a gold cross on a chain hanging between a women's breast (nothing religious) I just fnd it sexy.
I only wear one when wearing my nun outfit
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Hmmm...
I don't know that I can agree with that definition as it would make me girlfriend/boyfriend with men I see from around date 2, while we are still only in the beginning stages of getting to know each other... I simply do not date multiple people, nor do I date men who date multiple women at the same time.

And to be honest, I've never heard anyone say "my friend girl" or "my friend guy" to refer to their platonic friends...
While I appreciate all of the responses, I have to agree that to say that simply because I choose not to date multiple people at one time, it automatically makes who ever I am dating my girlfriend by default is a bit much. That would make someone my girlfriend as soon as we agree to go on a date.
 
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Jec30- I'm with you on this one, most definitely! Geez, give it some time! You are a bf/gf when you have established the fact that you are each wanting to explore the relationship further with no desire to see other people. You want to see just how well you get along with each other in multiple scenarios and emotions.
2-3 dates you don't even know the basic info about each other. As Chris Rock once said (paraphrase) the first six dates or so you send your representative. Ain't that the truth. We may be ourselves, but we are our BEST selves! Lets see what happens when the rubber meets the road!!
 
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