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JoJoBean is offline JoJoBean Post #11  August 22,2009, 9:14pm
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When my "boyfriend" asked me to be his "girlfriend my first response was...
I think I am to old to be a girlfriend, he assured me that I was not. Now I have grown to like being the girlfriend.
 
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I had a guy ask me on a second date, "So, are we boyfriend and girlfriend?" I pulled away and asked him "What do you mean by that?" He didn't know and the topic was dropped. Thing is, I was already in the process of deciding (for several reasons) that this was going to be our last date, but him asking that really freaked me out and sealed his fate.

So, I don't know when the right timing is, but it's NOT on the second date!

Another guy asked me after we'd been going out for two months "Will you date me?" I laughed and said "Well what is it we've been doing these past couple of months?" He asked again, "Will you date me?" Thinking he was just being playful and joking I said "Of course I'll date you." Little did I know that was his way of asking to be exclusive! I didn't figure that out until much, much later. Lesson learned. I liked him quite a bit, but never felt he was "the one." It took me another year to get rid of him, and it did not end well.

My radar is much better tuned these days to these kinds of "exclusive" comments that don't actually use the word "exclusive."
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Hmm ... I have somewhat the same experience and thoughts you do.

Still, if it is important to her, and not important to me, why fight it?
What if she called you her frogfriend? or a super friendly frog with a neck-leg fettish?
 
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brneyedangel wrote :
Significant other? Partner? Man you're dating?

LOL. Well, significant other just sounds kinda meh to me. Partner is okay, but not quite it, either. We live together, so it's more than dating. We've used "fiance" at times, though that tends to get people overly excited, and the wedding's a long, long time away.

He once said, in a Pepe LePew voice, that he was my "lov-AIRE", and I like that- the effect on little old ladies and hip twenty-somethings is extraordinarily amusing.
 
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I agree with those who have said that if you're seeing each other exclusively, then you're pretty much boyfriend/girlfriend.
 
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I really have to wonder who invented this terminology, and in which decade (century)? It burns my ears, for some reason and I never use it much myself...
 
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When my ex-boyfriend used the term "girlfriend/boyfriend" the first time, I found it quite funny as we both were over 50. Then I kind of warmed to it and used it a lot. I believe it can be used at any age.
 
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As stated in previous posts, using "boyfriend"/"girlfriend" comes after the decision has been made to exclusively date each other. If you're not dating anyone else, and neither is she, and if neither of you have no intention of doing so, by default, you're boyfriend-girlfriend.

The terms are just words that makes communication with others less complicated. It's easier to say "my boyfriend" as opposed to "the person I'm dating on a regular basis". It really doesn't go farther than that and to me, doesn't have any immature connotations.

It's not uncommon to also hear people in conversing distinctions such as "my friend girl" or my "friend guy" to indicate that the relationship is non-romantic/platonic.
 
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In my experience, bf/gf is a v important turning point and stepping stone to a LTR.

We have to really close for me to tell people that he is my bf. Always seemed odd if I didn't know what the guy I'm dating is up to today. Also, it should have progressed to a point where I can comfortably say like "he/we would always do this and that..."
 
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CreolePrincess wrote :
As stated in previous posts, using "boyfriend"/"girlfriend" comes after the decision has been made to exclusively date each other. If you're not dating anyone else, and neither is she, and if neither of you have no intention of doing so, by default, you're boyfriend-girlfriend.

The terms are just words that makes communication with others less complicated. It's easier to say "my boyfriend" as opposed to "the person I'm dating on a regular basis". It really doesn't go farther than that and to me, doesn't have any immature connotations.

It's not uncommon to also hear people in conversing distinctions such as "my friend girl" or my "friend guy" to indicate that the relationship is non-romantic/platonic.
Hmmm...
I don't know that I can agree with that definition as it would make me girlfriend/boyfriend with men I see from around date 2, while we are still only in the beginning stages of getting to know each other... I simply do not date multiple people, nor do I date men who date multiple women at the same time.

And to be honest, I've never heard anyone say "my friend girl" or "my friend guy" to refer to their platonic friends...
 
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