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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #11  August 21,2009, 7:21pm

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I probably would not mention it to the people I work with....

but friends, yeah. Family...if they even asked, sure.

Funny story though...

Back when internet dating was still a bit out of the ordinary (think it was 2002). I was about 24ish, I was dating a guy who was 30 -- mind you -- and just graduated from law school and moved back in with his parents.

He had been at my house for awhile (I think it was only a night but might have been two).

His mom tracked down my phone number some how....and left threatening messages on my voicemail that she was going to call the police if I didn't call her soon to tell her where her son was!!!!

She assumed (he told me) that I was some psycho he met off the "web"!!
 
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cp30 wrote :
She assumed (he told me) that I was some psycho he met off the "web"!!

Do you carry this trauma still today?
 
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bigfincat wrote :
My family would think it was completely normal & not think twice about it so I would not lie about it.

If her family would have a hard time with it then I would likely broadcast it as well just for the heck of it.

I don't adjust my behavior to appease the "proper" & uptight population.
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You would honestly broadcast it to her family if they were not ok with this? risking losing her as a result? hmmm! don't understand that one! Sometimes, in life we have to adjust our behavior for the sake of others who do not share our beliefs!
I am agreeing with you on this one. If I was against telling and my SO felt that she is not going to respect my wishes there would be a breakup coming very soon after that.
 
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Do you carry this trauma still today?

I'm really quite amused, had forgotten about it and am glad this thread reminded me of funnier days....lol
 
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cp30 wrote :
I probably would not mention it to the people I work with....
Two of my colleagues met and married their husbands on eH. One was our former superintendent, and the other was an administrator who now teaches one of our programs (she decided that since she had a husband she didn't want to live at the school, which is pretty much what our administration did at the time). I wouldn't care if my colleagues knew, though it's not because my colleagues chose to share; it's just the way I am.

Of course I could see my mother telling people and rolling her eyes as she says, "She met him on the internet." That would be her issue, not mine. My father wouldn't care--he doesn't sweat the small stuff. He's my soon to be 81 year old PS3/Wii playing, internet surfing, DVD hoarding father--go figure!
 
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I wouldn't mind telling and actually have been pretty open about how my bf & I met. I did feel a bit more...hesitant about telling when I first started online dating. Didn't take me long to get over it.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I am agreeing with you on this one. If I was against telling and my SO felt that she is not going to respect my wishes there would be a breakup coming very soon after that.
The thing with me is where does it end?

I am not going to live under the judgement of anyone so I will have a short fuse when it comes to such things. I won't get mad... I just will change such subjects & move on.
 
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cp30 wrote :
I probably would not mention it to the people I work with....

but friends, yeah. Family...if they even asked, sure.

Funny story though...

Back when internet dating was still a bit out of the ordinary (think it was 2002). I was about 24ish, I was dating a guy who was 30 -- mind you -- and just graduated from law school and moved back in with his parents.

He had been at my house for awhile (I think it was only a night but might have been two).

His mom tracked down my phone number some how....and left threatening messages on my voicemail that she was going to call the police if I didn't call her soon to tell her where her son was!!!!

She assumed (he told me) that I was some psycho he met off the "web"!!
She thought you were the threat? Sheesh! Scary!!
 
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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #19  August 21,2009, 9:18pm

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lm124 wrote :
She thought you were the threat? Sheesh! Scary!!
yeah....turns out he was the crazy!

I did have to think about how to tell people I met lm124! I'm pretty sure I made something up...
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I tell the truth.

One, remembering lies is work, and I only work if I'm paid.

Two, who cares what other people feel?
It is times like these that I really question my reality??? I hate when I agree with pure logic.



I hope you see the smileys!!!



because we sure can, and we are sick of the irony, man!!!!
 
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