The Last Straw (A vent)

So many posts here ask the same question over and over - when you send an e-mail to someone (not necessarily EH), why won't they either answer or close you out, why do they just ignore you? Perhaps here is why.....

Normally when I get an e-mail or a wink from a man, I'll take a look at his profile and either respond or close him out with whatever canned version of "thanks, but no thanks" that site provides to its users. I figure that way I'm not leaving a person hanging and wondering if I'll ever write back.

So......on some sites, the person you said no thanks to is free to e-mail you again unless you actually went further and blocked their profile in addition to closing them. The problem?

In the past two weeks, I've gotten no less than ten venomous e-mails from the men who were closed ranging anything from outraged feelings of entitlement to get a date with me and how dare I reject them to harassing demands over and over to give them a chance, to actual threats of death and physical mutilation. Ironically, every single one of those e-mails end with the same - you are missing out on a wonderful, sweet, caring, nice guy because you are too insert your own expletive here ______ to give me a chance (there is irony and humor in here somewhere).

But seriously, my point is that I'm pretty much done with the courtesy "no thanks" and am joining the "let's just ignore him and hope he just goes away" bandwagon. Figure if it works for so many, it will work for me too. Much better than opening your e-mails to find colorful death threats from your unhinged local psycho. So next time you wonder why she just ignores you, look around and say thanks to your fellow men.

Anger, fear, I sense in you. They lead to the dark side.

But seriously, it's fine to do that. Just don't translate that frustration to your online dating profile, or let the sins of the few represent the many.

, it wasn't really about her at all

I think it did make me a bit more prone to seeing obsessive behaviour in other guys though, and thinking "There but for the grace of a lot of navel gazing goes i."

So......on some sites, the person you said no thanks to is free to e-mail you again unless you actually went further and blocked their profile in addition to closing them. The problem?

In the past two weeks, I've gotten no less than ten venomous e-mails from the men who were closed ranging anything from outraged feelings of entitlement to get a date with me and how dare I reject them to harassing demands over and over to give them a chance, to actual threats of death and physical mutilation. Ironically, every single one of those e-mails end with the same - you are missing out on a wonderful, sweet, caring, nice guy because you are too insert your own expletive here ______ to give me a chance (there is irony and humor in here somewhere).

But seriously, my point is that I'm pretty much done with the courtesy "no thanks" and am joining the "let's just ignore him and hope he just goes away" bandwagon. Figure if it works for so many, it will work for me too. Much better than opening your e-mails to find colorful death threats from your unhinged local psycho.

So next time you wonder why she just ignores you, look around and say thanks to your fellow men.

thats the case with these guys also

whats that? lol