Lostforwords is offline Lostforwords Post #1  August 20,2009, 3:18am
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Hi everyone.

I could use some advice here. I'm new to this site so I'm learning. I am having difficulty understanding why nobody wants to have any communication with me. None of my matches are interested in answering my questions and instead close me off.

Has anyone had this experience? How do you overcome it?
 
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Ms666 is offline Ms666 Post #2  August 20,2009, 7:24am
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It could be you are contacting non-paying members who can't respond. However, if they are actually closing you, they probably are 'real members'. You might want to try posting some of your profile in the 'Using Eharmony' section and let some of the helpful people here critique it. Also, make sure you have at least one decent photo posted. Many people shy away from talking to someone who doesn't at least have a picture. HIH
 
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If you are contacting matches and they just close you out without ever communicating then I will ask: Have you done a better job filling out your eHarmony (dating site) profile than you have done filling out your Advice profile? Do you have a current and clear photo posted?

The odds are that if a match closes you out they are a paying member because most non-paying members are also non-active and therefore don't view or close.

What reason are your matches giving for closing you? While a lot of people don't select a very clear reason for closing, if they are selecting the "something in the profile" reason then you may want to go through your profile and see if you can make it better. If they are closing because of the "chemistry" or "values" or similar reasons then you may want to see about retaking the Questionnaire if you did not carefully consider each question when you filled it out and your 29 Dimensions may not accurately represent you. If the reason is for distance, well most people are just not interested in a LDR. Not much you can do about that.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Have you done a better job filling out your eHarmony (dating site) profile than you have done filling out your Advice profile?
Ditto that.
 
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