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I was wondering if anyone had some advice for me. I know I am still pretty young and have a lot of time to find that perfect someone, but for the last few years, every time I got a chance to be up to bat and hit one out of the park, you know really wow a girl, all I end up doing is striking out and watching the game from the dugout, you know the dreaded “lets be friends”. I am a pretty decent guy, I work in hospitals and clinics fixing medical equipment during the day and I am a paid on call firefighter by night. I have always had a passion for helping people, I am one of those people that will pull over and help someone change a flat tire, or help someone carry their groceries to their car, I just love the feeling you get when you make someone smile (especially kids) or help make there day just a little bit better. I am very family orientated and enjoy hanging out with friends, traveling, making people laugh, just living life to the fullest, because being a firefighter I get that front row seat to prove that you never know when you may go to see the big man up stairs. When it comes to working in a hospital or as a firefighter in the community I am confident, hardworking and outgoing, but when it comes to the dating world, that’s a whole different story. My last few relationships ended with me getting cheated on and because of that I tend to be a little shy with girls and tend to hold back. I have met a few girls on eharmony and during the messaging stage we seem to have a lot in common and it seems like things are going great, but when we go on a first date we can't seem to get a conversation going and when the date is over I usually don't hear back from them. I was raised kind of old fashion, to treat a girl special, to be romantic and show her how much she means to you, (cook her dinner, cuddle, take her out, ect…without smothering her) but I found out not all girls like that kind of thing. I guess I’m confused, I just don’t know what girls really want in a guy, I be myself and girls just want to be friends, I try other things and don’t even get noticed. My buddies come to me for relationship advice and I end up making there relationships better, at bars girls come up to me and ask me to hook me up with my friends, it gets a little frustrating that I can help others with relationships but can’t help myself. So that is why I am here, I guess I just need to put it all out on paper and I probably answered most of my questions just by writing this but I would really like some advice from someone else, maybe some tips. I would really apprecaite it.

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