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someguyoneh is offline someguyoneh Post #1  August 19,2009, 2:18pm
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I'm curious about how some people think I should respond to a girl I recently met from eharmony. We met for drinks, had good conversation, she seemed interested in meeting again as did I. I called her a day later to set up a dinner date, but to my dismay she sounded reticent on the phone claiming she needed to check her schedule before committing to anything. We agreed to meet the following Saturday (a week away), but a couple days later I get a text with her saying she forgot her parents were coming to town and she would have to cancel, but she suggested the Saturday after that. I texted back saying we should meet early next week for dinner, because I'm leaving town for work and wouldn't be back for a couple weeks, which she knew....no response. This is classic avoidance behavior used by women who are not interested, and I was fully expecting never to hear from her again, but then she sends an email through eharmony stating that if we're both still interested when I return we should get together then? I already know how i will respond to this, but I wanted to see what everyone else thinks?
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  August 19,2009, 2:26pm
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I consider it 98% likely she is lying to you with fake excuses to keep you available to buy her some dinners and stuff in the event that Mr. Right realizes she most certainly is not Ms. Right.
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DennisWisconsin is offline DennisWisconsin Post #3  August 19,2009, 2:27pm
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Some people are legitimately busy... some people just want to act busy... no people should cancel dates by text... If you have the number be a man (or woman) and make the phone call.... Honesty is difficult sometimes but it feels way better in the end.

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someguyoneh is offline someguyoneh Post #4  August 19,2009, 2:39pm
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I'd say you're %100 correct D_Lion. However, I don't want to burn the bridge completely, because as you said you ended up dating someone you met under these circumstances. How did you end up meeting her after she started giving you the run around?
 
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I'd say you're %100 correct D_Lion. However, I don't want to burn the bridge completely, because as you said you ended up dating someone you met under these circumstances. How did you end up meeting her after she started giving you the run around?
 
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You should date others, and do something inexpensive with her (or have her foot the bill). Always be dating others until you become exclusive.
 
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I think you are over-reacting.
 
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Get rid of this woman. She's not into you. Break it off with her so you maintain the power.
 
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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #10  August 19,2009, 3:20pm

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so you maintain the power? wow.

She is not playing games. She likes you. She's just not in love with you and has other priorities.
 
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