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I have been asked to get Community feedback on the following question:

There are many different groups, ethnicities, religions that we can belong to. For example, you could be Christian, Catholic, Baptist, Jewish, African-American, Asian-American, Chinese-American, Japanese-American, Korean-American, Senior/Mature, a single parent, divorced, a member of the military, disabled, or even a member of more than one of these groups.

Are you a member of any of these groups? If so, please tell us which you feel is your primary group and your general online dating experience as a member of this group. Has it been mostly positive or mostly negative? And why?



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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I have been asked to get Community feedback on the following question:

There are many different groups, ethnicities, religions that we can belong to. For example, you could be Christian, Catholic, Baptist, Jewish, African-American, Asian-American, Chinese-American, Japanese-American, Korean-American, Senior/Mature, a single parent, divorced, a member of the military, disabled, or even a member of more than one of these groups.

Are you a member of any of these groups? If so, please tell us which you feel is your primary group and your general online dating experience as a member of this group. Has it been mostly positive or mostly negative? And why?



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I'm an engineer. My dating experience (both on-line and off-line) as a member of that group has been negative.
 
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I am not a member of these groups, but have no barriers for meeting the right person.

I've dated matches with varied ethnicities and beliefs. Some have shown a reluctance, without a substantial explanation. I have to assume that this just might be me, or that possibly there is some concern for societal reactions. None were very clear about that, but most have become "just friends".

I'll try to ask them, but such is a very difficult or uncomfortable discussion for many people. I'm not really sure how to preserve the friendships, and to ask such a question. The anonymity of this discussion is an excellent step toward resolving our fears.
 
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I pretty much despise barriers and pigeon holes. Even if I may belong to some groups I'll stay out of them because I hate placing limitations on myself. Besides, I don't want to date myself, I want to date someone who adds something extra or opens a new door in my life. Groups tend to be to limiting and too similar for that.
 
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MarkInAustin wrote :
I'm an engineer. My dating experience (both on-line and off-line) as a member of that group has been negative.
I be an engineer too and my dating experience is not so good either
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I have been asked to get Community feedback on the following question:

There are many different groups, ethnicities, religions that we can belong to. For example, you could be Christian, Catholic, Baptist, Jewish, African-American, Asian-American, Chinese-American, Japanese-American, Korean-American, Senior/Mature, a single parent, divorced, a member of the military, disabled, or even a member of more than one of these groups.

Are you a member of any of these groups? If so, please tell us which you feel is your primary group and your general online dating experience as a member of this group. Has it been mostly positive or mostly negative? And why?



Thanks in advance for participating in this little mini-survey!
I may be just plain dense (pretty much is obvious) but I don't understand the question. Everyone is a member of some number of groups. Are the only ones that we are supposed to pick from are those listed?
 
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DancingFool wrote :
I pretty much despise barriers and pigeon holes. Even if I may belong to some groups I'll stay out of them because I hate placing limitations on myself. Besides, I don't want to date myself, I want to date someone who adds something extra or opens a new door in my life. Groups tend to be to limiting and too similar for that.
I agree. Groups tend to be divisive, exclusionary and often competitive rather than inclusive or cooperative. Individuals are encouraged to stay or associate within the group. This tends to act as a barrier for inter-group communication and association (see threads concerning "date within your religion" for examples).

The US claims to be (or to have been) a "melting pot" where people of various cultures, backgrounds, origins, languages, etc meld into a cohesive whole -- ideally. I'm not so sure how applicable that concept is in the real world.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I may be just plain dense (pretty much is obvious) but I don't understand the question. Everyone is a member of some number of groups. Are the only ones that we are supposed to pick from are those listed?
Doesn't have to be from that list - just whatever group you feel you identify with, so if you are Irish-American - etc.

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