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Happy Wednesday to you, also! Generally, I like to stay within a five year age range, give or take, either way. For me, I find I have the most in common with men who are in that age range. I've dated older than that, but never younger.
- August 19th, 2009, 06:06 pm
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I recently dated someone who was 14 years younger than me, and I have decided that 10 years younger should be my lower limit...
- August 19th, 2009, 06:19 pm
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I'm 39, and while I'd love to say I'd go 10 years either way, the likelihood of me dating someone who is 29 is pretty slim. I just tend to find that men who are that age are very rarely ready for the things I am looking for from a relationship. On the flip side, 49 wouldn't be out of the realm of possibility for me. Looking back, though, I tend to date men who are within 5 or 6 years of my age.
- August 19th, 2009, 06:27 pm
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Yes, I knew younger men had less life experience than I did..because I got to know younger men and in fact-they invariably DID have less. I've had a very well rounded life, and didnt feel I had much in common with younger men at that point...

In fact,,,women are often at a different point in life emotionally than men of their own age...we tend to think about starting families sooner, and in my day-at least, many women were still planning marriage in their 20s. These days, women are postponing getting married as often as men are. Some of this may be a gradual closing of the gap in career opportunities, thus giving women more 'incentive' to wait until they feel their own careers are established to their own satisfaction.

I enjoyed experiencing older men also because in my experience (notice I am not making universal statements) men who had some years on me took their time in bed; they valued foreplay more than younger men because they needed more of it themselves to function (no Viagara); and I frankly enjoyed being with them more on the whole.

Older men were often a source not only of excellent sexual experiences but also had the considerable advantage of being in the workforce longer and acquiring very sound wisdom from it. I found them less likely to be put off by my ambitions; and they encouraged me to take risks in my career path because many of them had as well. They were a resource for me personally and professionally for advise.

By the way, my dear 'Bum, I dont mind a bit of a challenge from time to time...I find exchanging ideas that are dissimilar refreshing and a way to learn about other people.

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I feel like being a trouble maker today and challenge you one that statement!
Do you really think that guys your age had less life experiences when they were younger? After all, they were the same age as you. Unless they were frozen in time, you all had equal amount of time and experiences on this planet. If you were attracted you older men then and now that you're older, you're attracted to younger men, then that means you've been attracted to the same age group of men (more or less) the entire time, no? At 30, you desired men in their 40's. In your 40's you desire men in their...40's. The fact that you don't want to date older men is a matter of your attraction (or lack of) to them.
Younger women like to think and say they're much more mature than men their same age but I've never really seen that as a reality. They're just as immature but like to think they act older. Then when older men date them (why not, right?) this validates their belief.
Just some random thoughts.

OH! As a 42 year old man, I'll date anyone my age or younger. Not older.
- August 19th, 2009, 07:36 pm
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Hmm, I posted in this thread but it is not here. Here goes again.

For a LTR I would go from my age down to about 10 years younger. Though it does depend on the particular woman.

As far as casual dating I will take nearly anyone out. Last year I was asked out by a 24 year old, we had a very nice time.
- August 19th, 2009, 07:47 pm
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I'm just getting back into the scene after 15 year hiatus. The big 60 is not to far behind me. Just looking at the matches I've received they range in age from the mid-40's to the late 60's. One of the things I'm sorting through is where am I going to draw the line. Right now I'm leaning toward a ten year range, mid-50's to mid-60's.
- August 19th, 2009, 07:52 pm
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Human sexuality is very fluid; I have found that preferences are more likely to change rather than be rigidly defined; I believe what is important is that you feel emotionally satisfied by encounters-whether you are gay, bisexual, lesbian, or heterosexual; many people really begin to explore their sexuality after a marriage or after children are grown and out of the house. Many sex-reassignments happen after age 40- when people can step back a bit from societal pressures and family expectations. Many men and women emerge from the closet and begin to live what they often describe as their 'true life' after theyve married, had children and divorced. Sexual preferences are not right or wrong- older men? younger men? over 50? under 30? brown hair? red hair? ..there is no wrong answer and no explanation needed: It is what it is.

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- August 19th, 2009, 08:18 pm
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It works out kind of funny for me because I gravitate toward older men. What makes it funny is that I look younger than I am, so when I date someone 10 or 12 years older, I can end up looking like his daughter.

I've had a couple of relationships where we've gotten a few stares...

On the other hand, the 20-somethings think I'm an "older woman" (as in 10 or 15 years older) until I explain that I'm actually older than their own mother. That usually cuts it short right there.

Anyway, I'm 44, and I set my lower limit at 40 and my upper at somwhere around 60. But it's all relative depending on maturity levels. Some are so young that they haven't "cooked" all the way yet, while others act too old and stodgy. I want somewhere in the middle.
- August 19th, 2009, 08:56 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
On the other hand, the 20-somethings think I'm an "older woman" (as in 10 or 15 years older) until I explain that I'm actually older than their own mother. That usually cuts it short right there.
LOL...yes, I expect associating yourself with a guy's mother will usually take the wind out of his sails pretty quickly.
- August 19th, 2009, 09:54 pm
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[quote=chawks64;715478]It works out kind of funny for me because I gravitate toward older men.

Some are so young that they haven't "cooked" all the way yet.


I quite understand that. Wouldn't waste my time with a unseasoned man.
- August 19th, 2009, 10:20 pm
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