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That sounds odd to me. Without a pattern of speaking that way – one which built slowly – I’d be likely to find it weird ... and wonder about our compatibility.

Still, to react so adversely to one comment seems like you are unusually prickly, which I would also worry about.

If this has been a pattern, losing guys over something so small, I would suggest trying to think about how to view awkward comments from some different possible perspectives before making a judgment.
- August 19th, 2009, 04:12 pm
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I dont think you are too judgemental! The 'jokey' creeped you out, its not your sense of humour. It probably indicates that he has a different sense of humour to you and will likely say other 'jokeys' that will also creep you out in the future. But not necessarily, texting is a weird way of communicating and unless you are 14 years old, not likely to be super experienced at it, I'm crap at texting for example, and also I'm Irish so my humour or references can be 'off' to a person of a different nationality.
Its likely your intuition is right but I would give the benefit of the doubt, written communication especially the brief, one line texts are just a stilted way to communicate and stupid jokes are 'frozen' in words with no body language or tone of voice to back them up.
- August 19th, 2009, 04:33 pm
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Babily wrote :
A guy asked me to hang out with him in the morning and I suggested having breakfast. I had some cute little pancake place in mind. He texted me back saying: "O breakfast? That's the key to my heart! Then cuddle? You can be the waffle, I will be the syrup."

That totally grossed me out and I stopped talking to him. Ever since then, he calls and texts, he said it was a joke, but I just can't get over that stupid joke, so I can't get myself to go out with him.

Am I too judgmental?
I wouldnt worry about it. If it puts you off dont think you need to force yourself to like it.

I would just put the statement within the context that he was trying to flirt with you.

*whispers* I think its dumb too.

- August 19th, 2009, 05:28 pm
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Babily wrote :
No, this is a different guy
Where do you find these weirdos?
- August 20th, 2009, 03:55 am
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No, the guy should have been smarter to slowly inch to find what you find humorous rather than make a quick lewd comment if he was trying to date you. Tact is a lost art.
- August 20th, 2009, 04:30 am
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Mr. no ride home and Mr. maple syrup guy don't sound like your type .Corny attempts at suggestive flirting, well.... trying to see if you are game, what the heck . Also, Mr. no-ride, took a stab at it? Why don't YOU elevate the field.... by being more selective and planning better dates , rather than setting yourself up with the last minute, try to get lucky, booty call types......
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Where do you find these weirdos?
- August 20th, 2009, 04:31 am
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Babily wrote :
A guy asked me to hang out with him in the morning and I suggested having breakfast. I had some cute little pancake place in mind. He texted me back saying: "O breakfast? That's the key to my heart! How did you know it was through my stomach?"
That totally grossed me out and I stopped talking to him. Ever since then, he calls and texts, he said it was a joke, but I just can't get over that stupid joke, so I can't get myself to go out with him.

Am I too judgmental?
I think he should have said the above. What he did text back was just different? I think he was trying to flirt just very poorly.

Its not bad to be selective however, you should keep you in mind that one might miss a really great person if they narrow down to much.

PS: Breakfast dates are the best! (Peanut Gallery: No I am not saying one has to spend the night prior to the breakfast date!!)
- August 20th, 2009, 04:50 am
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Babily wrote :
A guy asked me to hang out with him in the morning and I suggested having breakfast. I had some cute little pancake place in mind. He texted me back saying: "O breakfast? That's the key to my heart! Then cuddle? You can be the waffle, I will be the syrup."

That totally grossed me out and I stopped talking to him. Ever since then, he calls and texts, he said it was a joke, but I just can't get over that stupid joke, so I can't get myself to go out with him.

Am I too judgmental?
There isn't enough information here to really know. But I am assuming that you had never met. And I don't know what your conversations had been like prior to this one. If you had never met and your previous conversations had been information exchanges rather than flirty then this could definitely be a turn off.

I would read his comment as flirting and humorous. The fact that you found it inappropriate this is a clear indication that you and he have a different type of sense of humor and are not going to be compatible at this basic level.

I would certainly hate to date someone where I had to be extremely careful every time I opened my mouth because she would likely misinterpret the meaning of everything I would say. This is not to say that you are right or wrong just that we would need to each find someone who communicates the same as we do. So thinking this way you were not to judgmental
- August 20th, 2009, 08:22 am
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That message wouldn't have offended me. In fact I probably would have replied along the lines of "Sounds like a plan, but only if I can be the syrup because I'm WAY too sweet to be a waffle" But that's just me, a flirt who's just a wee bit corny.

To be honest, if his sense of humor/flirtation grossed you out, then he's probably not the guy for you.
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- August 20th, 2009, 08:24 am
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Where do you find these weirdos?
Really don't know why you consider this guy a weirdo without more information as to what type of conversation, length of time known, etc. had gone on before this comment. I dated a girl with whom we would have had a similar exchange. Not as our first conversation but we had built up to a level of understanding each other's flirting and humour. I consider neither myself weird nor did / do I consider her weird.
- August 20th, 2009, 08:29 am
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