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I see the above sentence in so many guys' profiles. What does it really mean? Is it code for being slender, weekly manicures / pedicures, perfect salon hair, someone who dresses smartly, etc? Men, please enlighten me!
 
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I don't have this in my profile so I cannot speak for all the guys. To me this means that you take pride in your body and how you look in general. In other words you eat healthy and get a bit of exercise. It would also mean that you take a bath and comb your hair.

It does not mean (at least for me) that you are a gym rat, must look like a model or the latest hot movie star, spend all day at the spa or salon. Actually if you look like you have spent too much time getting all made up then you are going to come across as too high maintence for me.
 
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That's a VERY broad statement. To know what it means to a particular man you would have to ask that man, not men in general. I suspect there are as many answers to that question as there are men in the world.

Do you want my individual answer? For me that statement would be completely (well almost) non-physical. It would describe an attitude.
I want a woman who can do things for herself, and take care of her own issues. NOT that she never needs help or never does things with others just for the companionship, BUT that she's not needy/clingy/dependant on me for everything.
That kind of competent independance will probably show up in how she presents herself physically as well, but that's just a small side benefit.
 
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kevin76 wrote :
That's a VERY broad statement. To know what it means to a particular man you would have to ask that man, not men in general. I suspect there are as many answers to that question as there are men in the world.

Do you want my individual answer? For me that statement would be completely (well almost) non-physical. It would describe an attitude.
I want a woman who can do things for herself, and take care of her own issues. NOT that she never needs help or never does things with others just for the companionship, BUT that she's not needy/clingy/dependant on me for everything.
That kind of competent independance will probably show up in how she presents herself physically as well, but that's just a small side benefit.
Excellent answer. Same for me too.
For myself, I'll add that she needs to be healthy. Doesn't smoke, eats right, stays active and smiles a lot. It also means she has a job, pays her bills, can purchase her own groceries, and has a little money saved up in case of an emergency.
 
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MoneyHoney wrote :
I see the above sentence in so many guys' profiles. What does it really mean? Is it code for being slender, weekly manicures / pedicures, perfect salon hair, someone who dresses smartly, etc? Men, please enlighten me!
For me (and bear in mind, I typically date in the mid-30's to mid-40's bracket) that they exercise on a fairly regular basis (2-4 times a week), they eat properly, and doesn't dress like she's stuck in the 80's. I take very good care of my body (it's the only one I've got until they get that whole-body-clone thing figured out). I want to be with someone who is similar in outlook.

Now here's the kicker - I also want someone that has taken care of themselves mentally. She should be fairly current on what's going on in the world, has informed opinions, etc.
 
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Probably it means someone who exercises maniacally, but it could also mean someone who is into being healthy in all ways.
 
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Yes: it is "code" for attractive, not unhealthy, over-weight, slovenly or run-down. Salons over-done etc. is "high-maintenance" and not desirable. "Takes care of herself" would imply a healthy lifestyle, and therefore good looks.
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I see the above sentence in so many guys' profiles. What does it really mean? Is it code for being slender, weekly manicures / pedicures, perfect salon hair, someone who dresses smartly, etc? Men, please enlighten me!
 
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MoneyHoney wrote :
I see the above sentence in so many guys' profiles. What does it really mean? Is it code for being slender, weekly manicures / pedicures, perfect salon hair, someone who dresses smartly, etc? Men, please enlighten me!
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Just like women like men who dress attractively, stay and shape and try to look their best, men like it, too.

It doesn't mean expensive and frequent salon visits but living a healthy and moderate lifestyle so you keep sexy and trim.
 
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Its the politically correct way of saying that they're not into fat chicks
 
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oh great thanks for reminding me of my second least favorite cliche after, "living life to the fullest"

excuse me while I go re-make my match profile unsearchable
 
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