Is Dating a Friend a Good Idea?

Is Dating a Friend a Good Idea?

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DLance is offline DLance Post #1  August 18,2009, 8:20pm
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I think the best relationship is dating a friend.  What a great idea,friends first.
 
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DLance wrote :
I think the best relationship is dating a friend. What a great idea,friends first.

Oh man, not so sure.

To BECOME friends first I do agree with. That is the best situation in my opinion.

To start a romantic relationship with a FRIEND is not. I did that and it ruined us. No romantic relationship and our friendship is gone.....

Of course we tried, but when it did not work out our "friendship" also took a hit. Too bad.....
 
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DLance wrote :
I think the best relationship is dating a friend. What a great idea,friends first.
Not always, because if you try a date and it feels really weird then sometimes the friendship can't get past that and you lose a friend.
I think it really depends on if you have ever had "What if" thoughts about each other in the past, if you have then going on an actual date seems easier somehow, but if you have always been just friends and never thought about each other that way then it seems more awkward.
 
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I think the only time one should begin dating a friend is when a real high attraction and chemistry is felt between the two. If there's a feeling that there is something more, it should be explored. But just to start dating a friend because it's familiar and comfortable smell like a disaster waiting to happen. I think it's far more common, and less risky, to remain friends with someone who have been dating. You might get along beautifully but just not have that certain something or feel a spark but really enjoy each other's company. Then, it's realized there's a beautiful friendship in the making.
 
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You have friends and you have romantic partners. While your romantic partner needs to also be your very best friend it is not a good idea to try and turn an existing friendship into a romatic partnership.

If the romantic part does not work out you have lost both your partner and your friend. Just not worth the risk.
 
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Shads wrote :
Oh man, not so sure.

To BECOME friends first I do agree with. That is the best situation in my opinion.

To start a romantic relationship with a FRIEND is not. I did that and it ruined us. No romantic relationship and our friendship is gone.....

Of course we tried, but when it did not work out our "friendship" also took a hit. Too bad.....
I agree. You can date tons of people... but good friendships are darned hard to come by.
 
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That's why guys have "friends" that are women - to wait in the wings until you can make a move - so, um, yeah, go for it.
 
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DLance wrote :
I think the best relationship is dating a friend. What a great idea,friends first.
In theory, yes. You get to know the other person before developing feelings. You get to know the other person before being having your view colored by harmones and endorphins. You KNOW the person, and therefore, have a better understanding if this person is right for you or not and you are not biased by emotions.

However, you then have to dig deeper into the motivation of dating a friend. This motivation can make or break a relationship and even a friendship. If the motivation is pure, meaning you both really did the above and learned about each other and found that you truly did love each other, that kind of relationship is like no other. A deep foundation that has already been establish and you build a romantic relationship from that, it can't fail. However, if the motivation wasn't as true and you believe it to be. If it becomes more a curiosity than truly falling for the other person. If you became friends with this person only to one day "score", then this has a huge risk of backfiring.

My experience is that you can date a friend. I did. It was one of the best relationships I've ever had. I was very sorry to see it end. It was through no fault of either of us, and totally situational. We are still friends today. I speak to her quite often and think of her fondly. I'm sure she feels the same about me, but circumstances prevent us from getting back together even though a small part of me wishes it.
 
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I adore my guy friends but I have never ever been romantically involved with any of them. Ever.
 
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