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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  August 18,2009, 2:26pm
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Based on your own dating experience, what can others do to be a better date?
 
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Show interest by asking questions and then follow up with more questions.

I just met a woman at a bar and I started the conversation and asked her all kinds of questions (in a conversational manner) She liked the attention and when I stopped asking questions she seemed at a lose for what to do next... That is the end of any meeting...

Ask questions. Don't grill the other person, but show interest.
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Research some of these EH articles so they can avoid the major blunders before they even make the date and then start a thread when they hit snags on subsequent dates after that to figure out what went wrong

In all seriousness...I think we all can benefit from people brushing up on basic manners. The golden rule is pretty universal in most religions...I know...I studied them
 
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Actions not words

Is someone is going to describe his/herself as "fun-loving", then they should define that word with actions. Don't just sit around telling me how fun you are, show me. Let the personality shine through. If someone uses "funny" to describes him/herself, then, that person should show me the humor. There is nothing worse than being on a date and waiting for the person to live up to his self description.
 
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Looking forward to this thread. Maybe I can learn something.
 
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Dates, what are dates?
 
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Research some of these EH articles so they can avoid the major blunders before they even make the date and then start a thread when they hit snags on subsequent dates after that to figure out what went wrong

In all seriousness...I think we all can benefit from people brushing up on basic manners. The golden rule is pretty universal in most religions...I know...I studied them
Good advice. Also... BE PREPARED. Read your match's profile and subsequent communications, including guided communication steps. This lets you think about questions you want to ask, and to show that you have PAID ATTENTION. I brought fresh baked cookies on a first date for just some coffee, because she had mentioned enjoying them. It was a nice plus for both of us.
 
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As cliche as it may seem, just be yourself. Keep a positive attitude and relax. Its far more natural for someone to behave as they would around their friends and family than to make some special effort.
 
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- Ask questions about things you have in common.

- Do some research before the date. For example, if he/she lists interests that are interesting but new to you, do a little research on the net about them so you can have a conversation about them instead of just listening. The same goes for the date setting. For example, if you're going to an art gallery, research the artists on display. If you're going for drinks, try and find out if anything else is interesting closeby just in case you really hit it off and want to extend the date.

- Don't agree with everything your date says just to impress him/her. Have the confidence to disagree with something if it's truly how you feel. Just be nice and respectful about it of course. It shows confidence to do this and that's more attractive!

- Ask questions that make your date expand on their interests and passions instead of just explaining them. For example, don't ask "What do you do for a living?", ask "What made you want to get into XX career?" or "What's your favorite thing about your job?" The former makes your date explain the passion behind their career instead of just describing it.
 
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I believe in just being yourself. I don't ask interview type of questions. I'm curious by nature and am always asking questions any ways, although there is no probing. I just go with the flow...
 
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