How can I convince a girl to give me a chance


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smr192009 is offline smr192009 Post #1  August 18,2009, 12:12am
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How can I get a girl Ive been talking to for 7 months to give me a chance, she lives long distance away from me, I live in the South Eastern USA and she lives in the very South Western part of Canada, we have talked about dating a few times, I even told her that I liked her the 3rd month we had been talking and she thanked me for telling her and all of a sudden she tells me just the other day that she is "kind of seeing a guy waiting to see where things go with him I dunno" and I have asked her about giving me a chance and she says she doesn't know and says she feels weird and unsure about it which I am too and also told me that she would never expect me to leave from my home here and doesn't want me to ever do that but why should that matter if we can be together? I'm happy that she is being honest with me but I'm sure it can work out, I really like her more than a friend and am willing to stay just friends for now and to stay nothing more than just friends even if it couldn't work out and I understand that it may or may not happen and its way too early still to tell if it definitely will work out or not and would be very happy that we atleast gave it a chance, she says she likes me alot as a friend and that I'm a really genuine guy, also said that she trusts me but I really want her to give me a chance and Ive never forced anything on her or done wrong to her and from the fact that Ive always been so respectful of her, given her space, even willing to stay on nothing more than just friends level with her and to talk more about it next year when shes done with college like she said she would a while ago, plus Ive never kept her from life, from this I don't see why she couldn't give me a chance. I really feel like I can't take no for an answer even though I know I should accept that, I even told her that I was ok with waiting for her but pretty much seems like shes looking for a relationship all of a sudden when shes always told me she wasn't interested in a relationship right now and I am absolutely sure that she has never lied to me about anything, I am really trying hard to make this work and trying and willing to take care of what I need to take care of so that we can be together if we can, we have never seen in person aside from sometimes being on webcam and pictures but would really like to go meet up with her in person and get to know eachother in person and I'm sure that I would be just as sure if not more than I really do love her even as a friend and want to be with her plus give her some time after that to think about it. I am being realistic about this and again not trying to force it on her or pester her with it, but is there any way I can convince her, what should I do???
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I agree with Oregon Coast Guy... You have been a great pen pal... now it is time to move on.
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What you want doesn't really enter into it, if she doesn't want to date you then she doesn't want to date you. It doesn't matter how good you are, or how respectful or how anything else. She doesn't want to date you. Story over.
 
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It's time to move on and date other women.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #7  August 18,2009, 3:13am
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wrote :
but I'm sure it can work out,
hi i know it might feel this way long distance but there is no way that you can know this.

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I really feel like I can't take no for an answer
yeah, do you think there is a chance that you have built this relationship up over time into something it isnt?

those are pretty intense feelings for someone you have never met before. people often are not what we build them up to be when we finally meet them. i'd keep that in mind and try to meet someone that is closer to you. there are lots of people out there and you sound young. dont waste your life/time wanting someone that isnt interested in you.


 
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gothustartus wrote :
What you want doesn't really enter into it, if she doesn't want to date you then she doesn't want to date you. It doesn't matter how good you are, or how respectful or how anything else. She doesn't want to date you. Story over.
WOW PEOPLE ON HERE GIVE UP SO EASY.

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She is "kind of seeing a guy" so you are in the friend zone. Stay in touch as pen pals if you want, but put yourself out there to meet others.
 
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annother is offline annother Post #10  May 19,2011, 8:06pm
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DancingwiththeStar_thats_me wrote :
WOW PEOPLE ON HERE GIVE UP SO EASY.

SO SAD.
People know when they are being given the brush-off. This is an old thread, but as a general rule if the lady is seeing someone else and it's long distance and she wants to keep him as a friend, then the chances are that a romance is out of the question.
 
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