Ladies, do you automatically assume he is lying?


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MarkInAustin is offline MarkInAustin Post #1  August 17,2009, 6:50pm
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I just recently joined one of those social networking sites, and posted some pictures of myself along with some biographical information. The other day, I got an E-mail from a woman I hadn't seen since my freshman year in college (she was in my dorm). She said:

"You haven't changed a bit"

I happen to look young for my age (I'm 44. I also really am 6'2" tall.) I was reading one of the threads about people looking much heavier in person, and I was wondering if women just assume that any guy they meet on-line is lying about his height/weight/age/amount of hair, etc. So, when I post a recent picture (including full-body shot), post my true age, height, etc. am I at a disadvantage because women will automatically add 5 years to my age, 20 lbs to my weight, subtract 4 inches from my height, and make me bald?

What do you assume when you look at a picture of someone who looks younger than their age?
 
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If the photo is time-stamped, there are no assumptions to be made.
 
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MarkInAustin is offline MarkInAustin Post #3  August 17,2009, 7:05pm
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MCMLXXII wrote :
If the photo is time-stamped, there are no assumptions to be made.
I was thinking of taking a picture of me standing next to a measuring tape, holding a copy of today's newspaper.
 
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MarkInAustin wrote :
I was thinking of taking a picture of me standing next to a measuring tape, holding a copy of today's newspaper.
Ha ha! It seems to work for criminals!

...that would be so funny.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #5  August 17,2009, 7:13pm
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MCMLXXII wrote :
If the photo is time-stamped, there are no assumptions to be made.
I use my mug shot....which is time-stamped.
 
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I reserve the final assessment until I meet them (if I meet them). In other words, I take photos with a grain of salt.
 
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I use my mug shot....which is time-stamped.
But did you have good lighting?
 
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I personally believe someone's profile is true until proven otherwise. I don't think it's a great way to start a relationship if you expect someone's lying....Of course I've been burnt by this philosphy....I'm still hopelessly optimistic
 
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MarkInAustin wrote :
I just recently joined one of those social networking sites, and posted some pictures of myself along with some biographical information. The other day, I got an E-mail from a woman I hadn't seen since my freshman year in college (she was in my dorm). She said:

"You haven't changed a bit"

I happen to look young for my age (I'm 44. I also really am 6'2" tall.) I was reading one of the threads about people looking much heavier in person, and I was wondering if women just assume that any guy they meet on-line is lying about his height/weight/age/amount of hair, etc. So, when I post a recent picture (including full-body shot), post my true age, height, etc. am I at a disadvantage because women will automatically add 5 years to my age, 20 lbs to my weight, subtract 4 inches from my height, and make me bald?

What do you assume when you look at a picture of someone who looks younger than their age?
I look young for my age, so I don't tend to make any assumptions about pictures. However, if I met you and you happened to be 5 years older, 20 pounds heavier, 4 inches shorter, and bald, you'd have some major explaining to do!
 
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I usually assume people might look a little different in person, but no I don't assume they are lying (see other threads: I'm 32 but still have my 22 year old naievty deep down...though I can't spell it).

No really, some poeple have looked better in person, some worse. Some I have had some clues they might be covering something up (like a bad front tooth....or tacking on a few inches.)

for the most part people are honest.

but if it looks too staged I am put off (if he looks like a catalog model...checking his watch as he dashes across the street in his pressed suit).

actually...wait. I think this is more about you not being able to take a compliment!
 
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