islandrain80 is offline islandrain80 Post #1  August 16,2009, 8:58pm
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Is a word I've heard a lot lately from friends. I emailed a guy i was interested in, about what I wanted (there was a diff post regarding that). He said I was correct on everything and admit he's been flaky. He's just been busy with now becoming a single dad (daughter is 9, recently got custody).

He asked if I was going to the Renaissance Fair to see him as a pirate, so I went. First off, wow he makes a sexy pirate! Anyway...I spent the day there. Spent some time with him and his daughter, and some time on my own. Kind of felt like a 3rd wheel though when I was with both. I know it's the 1st fair he's taken her to (he's really into these) so I understood majority of the attention was on her. Is it selfish though that I wanted more? He did introduce me to his daughter and dad, and some friends. When I was going to leave, he offered me some lunch and to see their camp (they were camping out for the weekend). and basically wanted me to stay a bit longer.

I got to know his daughter a little, and she talked with me...so I'm guessing she didn't hate me. It was actually funny at one point: we were at their camp, and I sat on a cooler (I'm self conscious about my weight and it was the most sturdy thing there). I guess I had some weird look on my face, his daughter said matter-of-factly "I know that look, you're not fat..Robin is fat". Kinda took me by surprise lol. It was also a nice compliment.

Overall it was a good day. When I was leaving, he hugged me and said "we finally got to spend some time together". In telling this to a friend, she told me to be patient. Which is hard, I'm not a patient person!

Do a lot of friends tell you to be patient? Has it ever worked out (i.e someone finally realizing they were going to slow)?
 
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Yes, be patient. I found someone who rocked my world, but it moved too fast and crashed and burned. Now I'm having to work through shock, regret, etc. GO SLOW. Your friends are telling you that for good reason. They sound like really good friends.
 
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Yes....don't try to rush this. But also....keep dating or at least looking for other people to date. Don't put all your eggs in this slow moving basket.
 
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sounds a great day; sexy pirate as like Captain Jack Sparrow. Cool! Look, if one day was great chances are better that other days will be great too. And if your pirate has been incolved in legal poceedings about his daughter, chances are his head space is still a little full. Just be cool too. It'll work out or not. But either way, you (and I reckon they did too) had a great day!
 
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Patience is not a virtue with me.
 
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Patience can be good or bad. I had so much patience for over 2 years and it didn't work out in my favour. You have to do what you feel is right. Good luck with it.
 
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islandrain80 wrote :
Overall it was a good day. When I was leaving, he hugged me and said "we finally got to spend some time together". In telling this to a friend, she told me to be patient. Which is hard, I'm not a patient person!

Do a lot of friends tell you to be patient? Has it ever worked out (i.e someone finally realizing they were going to slow)?
Being patient can be hard when we know what we want and don't see ourselves getting it soon enough, i assume your friend told you to be patient because she knows how hard it is for you. It's good advice, if the guy has things going on in his life that maybe mean he can't spend as much time with you as he'd like at the moment, well, being impatient about it won't help the situation and could damage it.
You know he's into you, you know he wants to go further, you're already two up on the rest of us (well, those of us who don't have that certainty in our own lives anyway) so relax and take it easy, enjoy the moments and leave tomorrow until tomorrow.
 
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I see a great deal of opportunity in your post.

I also noted a bit of a problem in that you don't seem to fully accept that his daughter is a part of his life. At 9 years old she is going to be a large part of his life for quite a few years more. It seems that she is accepting of you, can you take a second place to her?
 
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Georgethegirl wrote :
Yes, be patient. I found someone who rocked my world, but it moved too fast and crashed and burned. Now I'm having to work through shock, regret, etc. GO SLOW. Your friends are telling you that for good reason. They sound like really good friends.
You are SO right... Grrr I am trying so hard not to crash and burn a good thing right now. Patience, patience, patience... What a pain in the @ss!
 
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