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WoolyOrl is offline WoolyOrl Post #71  August 21,2009, 5:57am
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I agree with the comments about her possibly being spooked. Also, since you have not been intimate, perhaps she still wants to date others? Just because you do not operate this way, does not mean she is on the same wavelength as you. I do like your advice here, BLESS77, regarding making a joke of it, to let her know that you realize that you may have come across a little strong.
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Unfortunately I think that this ship has sailed... but I appreciate all the encouragement. Unless some unforeseen event occurs, I don't anticipate ever seeing her again. That's not a "pity me" comment btw - it's just a statement of how things are, and I'm okay with that. Not happy about it, but I'm okay with it. I'm a big boy, and this is not my first trip around the block. PLUS... she is SO missing out on a great thing.
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melman is offline melman Post #72  August 22,2009, 9:44am
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WoolyOrl wrote :
Unfortunately I think that this ship has sailed
I wouldn't jump to that conclusion. You did a really stupid thing by asking for 4 dates in 5 days. That's been discussed to death. Fine. But I think that any response on her part short of a restraining order, at least leaves the door open. What is the problem with that?

You seem to want to play out everything to a conclusion, instead of just letting things happen as they will. That is, "wanna play tennis?" means "wanna play tennis?" !!! Do you wanna or don't you? Not "do you want to play tennis and then play golf and then spend the weekend together and pick out drapes?".

Also consider that cutting her off completely eliminates the possibility of meeting a friend of a friend and etc.

Clearly she doesn't want to go back into the vanishingly small pool of guys looking for divorced single mothers with small children. Don't rush things and don't be so desperate.
 
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mysti24 is offline mysti24 Post #74  August 23,2009, 7:09am
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You already know its reasonable to want to be exclusive. But if she isn't thinking that its reasonable then odds are she's still playing the field. Its not a very good sign.

When we are really interested in somebody, by nature we tend to "put all of our eggs in that one basket".
 
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