I can see the benefits of crashing the aircraft during an actual training session...builds sensitivity towards mortality and the decisions we make. But there has to be limits to pushing the limits as well. I remember being a nursing student and some professors would continue making us feel sensitive to the fact that our actions could potentially cause serious harm to the patient. Over time for many of the students it actually hindered their patient care as it made them less confident in their skills and caused a lot of anxiety and resentment.

So no "ground rules" should be made ahead of time? That doesn't convince me I do agree that many of them come up at the moment over an extended period of time. But I do believe you need a firm foundation at the beginning of any relationship or you don't have a leg to stand on. Boundaries should be clear, concise, and have breathing room...in this way you create an atmosphere of safety and trust...or else many times you end up with the "love is a battlefield" scenario.

I can recollect a time when we were studying cause and effect with mealy worms. We were split off into small groups and the assignment was to introduce stimuli into the worm's environment. When you draw a heated head of a pin close to the animal it would naturally pull away. The mood of the room was calm and inquisitive.Well the teacher left the room for a certain amount of time and it didn't take long for many (not all ) of the students to begin either harming or killing the little buggers (even though we were instructed not to as we would be releasing them)

Unfortunately this type of behavior is not limited to the classroom and there are plenty of adulthood examples that I can put out here that have a similar undertone. So at an early age I learned a very important lesson. Man left to his own means can be a very destructive force. Many people depend on an outside source to provide themselves with boundaries that they have not internalized fully yet. If this was not true then that Wal-mart "greeter" would not be paid to stand in front of the door checking my receipt. It's cheaper and a pretty effective means of cutting down shoplifting. So I enjoy living in a world with boundaries..do they have to be stifling? No. They do have a significant purpose and function in our lives and relationships.