JerryC is offline JerryC Post #21  August 16,2009, 6:49pm
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Accents. I live in a city where we root for the "iggles" and if you're talking to some friends about the weekend they might ask if "youse guys are goan down da shore." Doesn't matter if it's a mixed group. At work, I still have trouble understand the folks that live in South Philly. Their accent is thick. I spent 5 years in Tennessee. By the time I left, just say I still prefer "ya'll" to "youse guys". The folks at the next stop on my educational trail, called me "Tennessee". Of course, they drank from "bubblers" or had a glass of "rut beer" or if it rained to hard the "ruff" might leak.
I'm 2nd generation American. Both my grandfathers spoke broken English. My mom's father seemed to think my dad would understand him better if they both had a couple of his favorite drink. A raw egg in a glass of beer followed by a glass of vodka as a chaser. My mom's mother spoke very good English, except when she needed me to pick her up some "winegar" or "wodka"
Many of my customers, when they call me, speak heavily accented English. I just have to listen carefully to what they say. If I don't, I'll ask them to repeat because if I don't get it right they may end up with hot dogs instead of lobsters.
All you can do is listen carefully.
By da way, if yaaint goan down da shore. Doya want us to pick upa couple a steaks? Wid or wid out?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #22  August 16,2009, 7:56pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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CreolePrincess wrote :
Okay, here goes. There are dozens of posts on these boards regarding being shallow, especially when it comes to weight and physical attractiveness.

And when listing his good qualities, they are plentiful…except…and there had to be an except: his accent.

To be quite frank, this is a very ugly picture of myself I think. I’m disappointed that I feel and have behaved in such a manner. I mean, I’m really put out with myself about this. I like to boast that I’m very liberal, tolerant, and open-minded. I feel like a hypocrite if I’m rejecting him merely for his accent.

So, now that I’ve come to this realization (that I don’t like about myself), do I try to make it work with him while trying to change my biases which may never happen? Or do I act on my petty nature that I obviously have and end it since there is a good possibility that my bias will not allow the relationship to develop further?
How about reassessing what you think is shallow, liberal, tolerant and open-minded to include the reality that something like this really does affect how you feel about someone?
 
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Shallow and petty are simply adjectives. However you decide to interpret whether they are positive or negative terms, is up to you.

Awhile back ago, I had several phone conversations with a woman born and raised in Alabama, and still lived there, that I encountered through eHA. She had a very strong southern accent, and I could barely understand her.She was a really nice and really pretty girl. Despite that, I couldn't get past the accent and not being able to understand her and was not fond of talking to her. Unfortunately, I also must be honest here: I also happen to think southern accents make one sound unintelligent. Her accent became a deal-breaker.

Luckily for me, she was also frustrated that I had to ask her to repeat herself every third sentence. Eventually, the boiling point came and she needed to go hang up the phone to go and "wash her hair." I have not heard from her since, nor have I tried to contact her. She saved me from having to be the one to end the "phoneship."

She freed me from having to be the one to cease communication with her. Perhaps this guy you are dating will eventually become frustrated with you being able to understand him, and will break it off with you. However, if you want to maintain the more powerful position, you should break it off with him.

Here's my point: There's nothing wrong with dumping a guy because of his accent. We've all dumped people for crazy reasons. The opinion just varies widely on what was a good reason and what was not. And it is just opinion also.
 
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k374 wrote :
Is he from India? That's the only part of the commonweatlh that I can think of where some of the accents are hard to understand and where English is a primary language.
No problems with Indian accents here, mind you that's not so surprising with the number of Curry houses in London.
 
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CreolePrincess wrote :
I like to boast that I’m very liberal, tolerant, and open-minded. I feel like a hypocrite if I’m rejecting him merely for his accent.
There's your problem
 
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Accents. I live in a city where we root for the "iggles" and if you're talking to some friends about the weekend they might ask if "youse guys are goan down da shore." Doesn't matter if it's a mixed group. At work, I still have trouble understand the folks that live in South Philly. Their accent is thick. I spent 5 years in Tennessee. By the time I left, just say I still prefer "ya'll" to "youse guys". The folks at the next stop on my educational trail, called me "Tennessee". Of course, they drank from "bubblers" or had a glass of "rut beer" or if it rained to hard the "ruff" might leak.
I'm 2nd generation American. Both my grandfathers spoke broken English. My mom's father seemed to think my dad would understand him better if they both had a couple of his favorite drink. A raw egg in a glass of beer followed by a glass of vodka as a chaser. My mom's mother spoke very good English, except when she needed me to pick her up some "winegar" or "wodka"
Many of my customers, when they call me, speak heavily accented English. I just have to listen carefully to what they say. If I don't, I'll ask them to repeat because if I don't get it right they may end up with hot dogs instead of lobsters.
All you can do is listen carefully.
By da way, if yaaint goan down da shore. Doya want us to pick upa couple a steaks? Wid or wid out?
Wid out. Phonetically, that was good. A couple of my closest friends are from PA, and I really do enjoy listening to them. I understand what they say, but I don't understand what they mean. The slang is different, so they have to sometimes break things down a bit. And I know a lot of Tennessians, too. Course, I don't have trouble with the thickest of southern accents. I think one of my favorites is British, followed by those in the NE USA. On the Asian side, one of my officemates has a Korean accent, and another has a Taiwanian. Several other co-workers have Philippinen accents. And I work with plenty of people who have Mexican accents. I seem to have very little trouble with them.

There are some people at work that have speech problems and are very difficult to understand. Although it's difficult, it doesn't really bother me. I don't know if this is because I'm only conversing with them during working hours on very limited subjects and it's ery easy for me to use context clues to decipher what they are trying to say. Or if it's because I actually understand them better than the man I'm seeing.
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
I also happen to think southern accents make one sound unintelligent.
Actually, I've heard many people say that, and I believe there still may be old stigmatisms attrached to the accents. It's a grave stereotype, though. Some of the smartest people have southern accents.

However, the point that you made here, actually is one that I have been trying to really evaluate in myself since all of this started. I know I don't think that he's less intelligent, but I'm wondering if I've attached some other stigma to it that I'm just not fully aware of having done.
 
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