What should be the turnaround time for responding to emails?


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parakeetjordan is offline parakeetjordan Post #1  August 14,2009, 9:28pm
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I am interested in a guy who has increasingly extended the time for responding to my emails. He is away for three months on military duty and we have been corresponding via email during that time, and we have never met in person before. The turnaround time for the last one was a week. Should I take it to mean that he is losing interest even though he says that he wants to meet me in his emails?
 
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Be patient! He's on military duty. You may need to rekindle this cyber-relationship when his military duty is inactive.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  August 14,2009, 10:01pm
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My advice is it shouldn't matter. Don't get hung up on someone who will be away for months at a time. You should be pursuing other potential men and your communication with this guy should just be something you happen to do in addition to this. If something comes out of it, great, but don't 'put all your eggs' into this guy's basket.
 
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No longer than 142 minutes, 27 seconds and 13 miliseconds. Dump him on the 14th milisecond, for sure!

Jokes aside - he is on military duty!!! he probably has some duties to complete there, don't you think?

When I'm at home, I reply quickly, unless I'm reading or have a visitor.

When I'm in the office, it depends on what kind of day I'm having, although I usually get back within 24 hours.

When I'm on a business trip (almost yearly duty of my own), I can't always reply when I want to - if I'm attending a trade show, it can be an 18 hour day wearing a stuffy business suit and high heels, on my feet all day playing a clown, mostly. I barely have enough strength to have a shower and crash afterwards - answering emails is nowhere near my physical or mental capabilities at those times. Sometimes I can muster a phone call, but I take no responsibility for the type of nonsense I could come up with. Luckily those call of duty trade events last less than a week, or I'd be institutionalised by now or at least wear a red nose and a red wig daily.

Give the guy a break is what I'm really trying to say here!
 
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Give the situation that he is away on military duty I would say that if he is responding in a week that he is very much interested. Communication for people in the military can be quite limited. As can be their free time. For most in the military it is not a 9 - 5 job with weekends off.

Be patient.
 
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With reference to the title of your post.

I am interested in finding a match / date / mate therefore I will respond quickly to any communication from a match. This could be within minutes if I am on my computer or it could be within a few hours if I am out or sleeping. I do judge interest based on how quicly someone responds unless I have been told that they are going to be out of town or otherwise not available.
 
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Given the fact that he is on military duty, I would recommend being super flexible with him. Their access to a computer is extremely limited. In addition, they are not able to e-mail to let you know if they're leaving one location to go to another for a few days or a week. For security reasons, they are very limited in what they can convey regarding schedule, change in location, etc.
 
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I am in the same situation as you. However, because we both have email accounts from the same place, I can see when he is logged on. He's on daily for several hours. It's easy to tell he's losing interest. If I couldn't tell when he was on, I would agree with everyone else - give him some time because he's on active duty.
 
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