What makes men want to date a single mom?


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parakeetjordan is offline parakeetjordan Post #1  August 14,2009, 9:52pm
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I am interested in hearing from the men out there about why they would want to date a single mom. Thanks.
 
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Well....the same reasons we want to date a woman who doesn't have kids.
 
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It is a case of the woman, if I feel an attraction I will try to date, if they have children or not.
 
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- kids are fun.
- single moms are much less likely to be clingy and needy
- if you want to have kids one day you get to see firsthand how good/bad a parent they are.
 
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Well for the over 40+ y o set, that is pretty much all that's out there.

Divorced with kids is the case about 95% of the time. (I think something must be wrong here in the USA with "marriage" !!!)

Honestly, guys have VERY little choice here.
 
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What's wrong with dating one? Ok if you hate kids then that would be a problem, but aside from the children and probably slightly different priorities in life a single mum is no different from any other single woman. Unless of course you are talking about someone who mainly wants a replacement dad for her kids.
I'll date anyone i am attracted to. I know some people who call that desperation but if i'm attracted to someone (no matter on what basis) why shouldn't we date?
 
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parakeetjordan wrote :
I am interested in hearing from the men out there about why they would want to date a single mom. Thanks.
I disinclined to date single moms. Way too much baggage. Besides that, they tend to be busy ALL the time. Unless I want to hang out with Jr. too, I rarely am able to get time to see them. Alone time is basically non-existent.

No fun activities can happen without major planning. (Canoe trip, Orienteering, Out of town excursions, any sort of weekend getaway)

It just sucks the energy out of everything. "Gimme a minute, he's crying again."

That was more reasons why not to date single moms, not really the question you asked....

I guess reasons to date would be that you really are attracted to them or like them a lot. Maybe you want to be a daddy? Maybe you have a fetish for moms... Maybe you're just giving them a chance.

Keep in mind I'm 27 so my dating pool for moms is like new mothers with children or infants. I guess if I was older I'd be dating moms with teenagers or maybe even adult offspring. That would be very different.
 
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In my age group there are going to be divorced moms or widowed moms. Though for the most part the children are grown and usually out of the house.

It is not that I seek out a single mother to date but that is what my dating pool contains with extremely rare exceptions. I like children even though I have none of my own so it give me an instant family which can add a whole new level of joy particularly at holidays.
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parakeetjordan wrote :
I am interested in hearing from the men out there about why they would want to date a single mom. Thanks.
well, actually I doubt I'd be interested in any adult without children. They'd just not be on the same wave length, proabaly self centre and not even tried, let alone failed at relationship. ALARM BELLS.

But flipped the coin, what would [you] date a guy who had sole care of their kids?
 
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I'm not a man, but I am a single mom. I have had men tell me their reasons and they seem fairly accurate, at least how they apply to me.

Single moms tend to be more easygoing and low-maintenance. We know how to let our hair down and have fun and aren't afraid to get "dirty". We tend not to sweat the small stuff because we've already dealt with major ones on our own. I know I myself am more tolerant of other people's schedules and priorities out of respect because I have them as well. Maybe I don't represent most single moms but I can tell you how I am and what others have said about me.

Mind you, my child is 10 and not an infant. I also have joint custody so I have a lot of free time in which to date and would never consider my child or anyone else's as "baggage". My preference for dating would be another single parent. I know I have the ability to love another child because of my feelings for his/her parent. And that includes my girlfriend's children as well.

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