What makes men want to date a single mom?


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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #11  August 15,2009, 3:08pm
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Like someone mentioned, If you're a divorced guy with kids, you're probably much more likely to find things in common with single moms than anyone else because they know much about what you are going through.
At this point I don't even know if I'd date a woman who didn't have kids, or who hadn't raised a kid. It would be asking a lot for them to wait for my weekend away from my son.
That's tough to really understand if you're not a parent...

I'm not even sure they'd could attempt to understand it, unless they had gone through it, or were going through it, themselves.
Additionally, single mothers seem a little more confident with themselves, maybe a little more "worldly."
I find that more attractive.
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #12  August 15,2009, 3:12pm
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For me whether, and how many, children a woman has is just one more factor that goes into determining how interested in her I am. The fewer children a woman has the better (none is the best).

However, this doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested in dating a woman with children....it just means other positive factors that go into determining my feeling toward her have to outweigh the fact of her having children.
 
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gothustartus wrote :
What's wrong with dating one?

Someone said, they heard this:



"You can't hit me!! You're not my REAL daddy!!!!"
 
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jayjay wrote :
For me whether, and how many, children a woman has is just one more factor that goes into determining how interested in her I am. The fewer children a woman has the better (none is the best).

However, this doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested in dating a woman with children....it just means other positive factors that go into determining my feeling toward her have to outweigh the fact of her having children.
I agree; It's just one factor, though a big one.

I am new at dating again, but more and more this comes up.

Everyone has their story; even someone with more than one divorce, though the more divorces, and the more children, the more sharply they need to be judged.

Bad judgement, REPEATED bad judgment, The "Biology is Destiny" syndrome present that DEMANDS children be borne to them, ex- spouse's abuse, drug or alcohol problems, physical, emotional and verbal abuse, sudden tragedy leading to widowhood, ALL could have happened, I have heard A LOT of reasons that are plausible.
Last edited by 6dle899; August 15,2009 at 8:42pm. Reason: Forgot to add: CHEATING. Hear that one all the time.
 
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At 28, never married and childless, I would not date a single mom. However, I can see why someone my age with children would date a single mom: more in common, playmates for the kids, etc.
 
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6dle899 wrote :
Someone said, they heard this:



"You can't hit me!! You're not my REAL daddy!!!!"
Well if he has to hit the child then someone is doing something wrong somewhere. I tell my son that if his mums boyfriend tells him to do something then it means the same thing as if his mum or i were telling him to do it.
He thinks it's fantastic having a daddy and a special daddy, it means three sets of grandparents to buy him presents, he wants me to get a girlfriend so her parents can complete his train set.
 
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parakeetjordan wrote :
I am interested in hearing from the men out there about why they would want to date a single mom. Thanks.


If she has a parakeet, then yes. Let's see, what makes men want to date a single mom? Her two breasticles, hips, lips, eyes and thighs. There, did we do your homework or something?
 
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hahahahahahaaa,,,

Single motherhood is just an aspect of what I am. Motherhood does necessarily define me, because I am an indelible part of my son's life, and have permenantly shaped him- as he has become part of me. It surely isnt something I would change and isnt something I can change, and it is a shame to be judged for it as if I made poor choices, or am defective in some other regard. My goodness.

You have to evaluate a single parent in so many other ways- do they have a job, do they display common sense, are they perceptive and sensitive, are they emotionally giving and available? Those parametres are what seem to be fair..

Given that- why not simply take one's time getting to know the other person- yes, planning will be necessary- anyone WITH A LIFE has to plan things.
 
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BobinFla wrote :
It is a case of the woman, if I feel an attraction I will try to date, if they have children or not.
I second what this guy said. The only thing that makes me leary is that my first love was a single mom and what hurt me the most about our break up was that I was beginning to grow attached to her son...
 
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As a single dad, dating someone who can understand the demands of parenting is a big benefit...

We can't just take off for the weekend on a moments notice. Spontaneity requires "planning"! And sometimes those plans change at the last minute when kids get sick or there is no one to watch them, etc., etc..

That being said, I don't think I've thought of a prospective date in terms of parent/non parent that way. I don't really hold that up as a significant factor. I've dated both.

The biggest thing for me when dating a single mom however, is her parenting style and the way she interacts with her children. I find that correlates strongly to OUR compatibility.
 
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