First Meeting: Handshake or hug?


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sports24662 is offline sports24662 Post #1  August 14,2009, 8:08pm
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Curious what people think about this. So you meet someone for a first date/meeting, do you handshake or hug when you first meet them?

Which do you do? Which do you prefer? I'm a hug person myself.
 
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Handshakes are for business meetings. I would be very turned off by a handshake from a potential suitor.

Hugs for me!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  August 14,2009, 8:49pm
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I use a handshake when I'm introducing myself to a woman I don't know (on the street, in a bar etc.). On a first date or meeting with someone from a dating site I always use a hug.
 
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I prefer hugs to handshakes when first meeting someone for a date. I use handshakes all the time when meeting parents, going to conferences, and attending meetings and they're just so...formal. Hugs are much more welcoming and warm, which is the feeling I'd prefer to convey when first meeting someone socially.
 
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I've done both. If I meet with a handshake, it's nice to part with a hug .. assuming you are still interested.
 
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MCMLXXII is offline MCMLXXII Post #6  August 14,2009, 9:15pm
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Definitely a handshake. I need my 3' of personal space...especially with people that I don't know.

This question may also have a regional answer. Some parts of the country (or the world) may greet a "stranger" with a hug...but a handshake is all I need.
 
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Hugs (kisses too) are personal for me and mean something. I don't readily hug people that I don't know very well. Although, if they initate it, I'm not rude about about it. I will hug them back. But if I've been chatting with this person for a while, I would be less opposed to a greeting hug. I would prefer to open with a handshake and part with a hug if the date went well. That way, if it didn't, parting with a handshake wouldn't be that odd.
 
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If it's a date and I've talked a lot to the guy before hand, I'll give him a hug but if it's like a blind date and i don't know much about him, I'll shake his hand. It also really depends on his body language. I will gage if the guy is going to be comfortable with a hug right away or not.
At the end of a date I'll usually hug but i did have one time where the hugs was such a surprise to the guy that I thought, ohoh! but i did it anyways and followed it by a thank you. He payed for a full meal when the original plan was just a cup of coffee.
 
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Hug, it's a date not a business meeting.
 
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