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Someone who loves me for who I am. Of course, "tall, dark, handsome, smart, wealthy, generous and good personality" would be more ideal . . . I want it all!
That alien is really getting jealous right now.
- August 14th, 2009, 11:32 am
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After being a skinny geeky guy in High School and then going to an overweight guy in my 30's, I now know where their priorities are. After working out and getting in shape, I can attest to this fact:

They are looking for guys who look like this:
- August 14th, 2009, 11:48 am
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After being a skinny geeky guy in High School and then going to an overweight guy in my 30's, I now know where their priorities are. After working out and getting in shape, I can attest to this fact:

They are looking for guys who look like this:
You really are quite deluded.
- August 14th, 2009, 11:53 am
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They are looking for guys who look like this:
It seems that many people assume that if the opposite sex isn't attraced to them....then what the opposite sex wants is a 'perfect person'. You (anyone, not just you VFX)....and the perfect person aren't the only two alternatives.

For example, don't you know some guy who isn't close to being the physical ideal...but who many women really like? I've known some of these guys....and it shows that personality can overcome just about every other deficit. But, if the personality isn't there....why wouldn't a woman base what she likes on other things, such as looks?
- August 14th, 2009, 11:58 am
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It seems that many people assume that if the opposite sex isn't attraced to them....then what the opposite sex wants is a 'perfect person'. You (anyone, not just you VFX)....and the perfect person aren't the only two alternatives.
Thanks for posting this jayjay; not only are you the voice of reason in this instance, but you're absolutely right!
- August 14th, 2009, 12:05 pm
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VisualFX wrote :
After being a skinny geeky guy in High School and then going to an overweight guy in my 30's, I now know where their priorities are. After working out and getting in shape, I can attest to this fact:

They are looking for guys who look like this:
I don't even come close to that, but none of the women i've dated seemed to mind that i'm pale, have a tatt and don't spend 8 hours a day in the gym working on a six pack. Perhaps i've just dated the blind insane ones with no standards.
- August 14th, 2009, 12:29 pm
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That is just from my personal experience, especially on online dating websites. And I have some proof that most women are taking physical appearance into account before responding to people.

In the past, on a couple of other websites, I did a test. I had my own account with my photos. No one would ever respond to me, nor match with me. I had some close friends (guy and girls) read over my profile, and they said everything sounded good. But still I wasn't getting any responses, and people closed me out.

So I opened another account with some stock photos of a guy that was considered "very handsome" for today's standards. I used the same profile text. Within a few days, the same people that ignored my real profile, wanted to chat with my 2nd profile.

So please don't tell me physical appearances don't count. eHarmony used to not allow people to show their photos, until communication started. Now that we have that option, it seems like no one wants to communicate unless you have a photo up-front.
- August 14th, 2009, 12:31 pm
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If what really mattered was "honest, don't lie, don't cheat, don't deceive, a clean character, loyal, hard working, smart, cultured, funny, good with kids, loves me, etc." then I and most other guys would have been scooped up a long time ago.
Do you think we girls aren't thinking the same thing about ourselves? Come on. We are all on here because we think we are great people that somehow have been missed by the good ones.

To my way of thinking, finding my mate, is more about being in the right place at the right time when both of us are ready for each other. So I'm focusing on learning to be all I have wanted to be in this life and in the meantime I'm learning to put myself out there more. I don't blame guys for not finding me, because all too often they'd have to break into my house to find me. That's not their fault if I haven't made dating a priority lately.

We can all think that the reason why we haven't someone is because of our physical appearance (or whatever our insecurities are), or we can show optimism and confidence that right one is just around the corner.

I read about a Vietnam vet who was burned, lost his legs, his vision and possibly one or both of his arms. Clearly not a gorgeous guy and someone that had a lot of liabilities. But he fell in love with a woman's voice over the telephone, and they met and eventually married. He must have been very special in other ways to make up for that.
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That is just from my personal experience, especially on online dating websites. And I have some proof that most women are taking physical appearance into account before responding to people.

In the past, on a couple of other websites, I did a test. I had my own account with my photos. No one would ever respond to me, nor match with me. I had some close friends (guy and girls) read over my profile, and they said everything sounded good. But still I wasn't getting any responses, and people closed me out.

So I opened another account with some stock photos of a guy that was considered "very handsome" for today's standards. I used the same profile text. Within a few days, the same people that ignored my real profile, wanted to chat with my 2nd profile.

So please don't tell me physical appearances don't count. eHarmony used to not allow people to show their photos, until communication started. Now that we have that option, it seems like no one wants to communicate unless you have a photo up-front.
My question would be why would you want to communicate with women who are like that? Seriously, they're obviously superficial, so why would you want to have anything to do with them? And why would you assume that all women want that based on your hardly scientific study? I mean, look at the picture you posted. Sure, he's nice to look at from the neck down, but look at his eyes. There is nothing going on upstairs. That isn't even remotely appealing to me. It doesn't matter how pretty/handsome the package is, if all there is to the package is the pretty wrapping, then there's really not much there, is there?
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That is just from my personal experience, especially on online dating websites. And I have some proof that most women are taking physical appearance into account before responding to people.

In the past, on a couple of other websites, I did a test. I had my own account with my photos. No one would ever respond to me, nor match with me. I had some close friends (guy and girls) read over my profile, and they said everything sounded good. But still I wasn't getting any responses, and people closed me out.

So I opened another account with some stock photos of a guy that was considered "very handsome" for today's standards. I used the same profile text. Within a few days, the same people that ignored my real profile, wanted to chat with my 2nd profile.

So please don't tell me physical appearances don't count. eHarmony used to not allow people to show their photos, until communication started. Now that we have that option, it seems like no one wants to communicate unless you have a photo up-front.
Your experiment doesn't prove that looks are all that women want. It only shows that more handsome is better than less handsome. Of course 'more handsome' you was more appealing in your profile than the 'less handsome' you. And there's no denying you might as well make the best of whatever looks you have. The thing is, there are other things that appeal to women....like the way you always hear that confidence is great.
- August 14th, 2009, 01:13 pm
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