PreachersSon is offline PreachersSon Post #31  October 27,2009, 3:24am
PreachersSon's Avatar

Like Ben Franklin, wonders if it is a rising or a setting sun.

Veteran

Joined: Sep 2008

Oklahoma City, OK

Posts: 1,106

See profile

Well, let's see: "All men" don't do any one thing, any more than "all women" do any particuliar thing. On the whole issue of Starbucks, I've got an interesting story. I drove 3 hours one way last summer to meet a match for a first date in her hometown, about which I knew zilch. I suggested we meet at IHOP about supper time, thinking it's good ambience, and decent food too. So, we meet, and she doesn't order anything. In that situation, I'm not going to order a meal, even though I haven't eaten since lunch, so we split an order of french fries. Then we went to her church together, where she was afraid to be seen with me. After, she wanted to go out to Sonic with her girlfriends--her married girlfriends--who didn't bring their husbands--and have me tag along--which isn't exactly why I drove 3 hours in the summertime in a car with no air conditioning--but anyway. So then SHE suggested we ditch her GF's and go to Starbucks--and she's not a coffee drinker! Sometimes feminine logic is a wonderful thing! The long and short of it is, we wound up closing the place down, and then some. I wound up driving back after 1 am that morning--then she decided never to see me again.

I guess my points would be, 1) it can be a great date with the right person, even if it is at Starbucks, 2) Starbucks isn't always the guy's idea, and last but not least, 3) if a guy is coming from out of town to see you, you probably know your town and it's attractions better than he does. Maybe Starbucks, or IHOP, or (gasp) McDonald's is a place that he figures every town has, so it's a safe suggestion. If there is someplace you'd rather go, suggest it. We aren't mind readers. Of course, it's a different story if you are coming to his town--but when was the last time that happened?

Oh, and if a guy travels some distance to see you, don't plan on hanging out with your girlfriends and expecting him to be a 5th wheel--unless you let him bring some of his guy friends to even things out.

After all, as Humphrey Bogart tells Lauren Bacall in Casblanca, "We'll always have Starbuck's." Or something like that.
 
  Reply With Quote
PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #32  October 27,2009, 4:16am

Unregistered

Joined: Oct 2009

Posts: 6,908

See profile

PreachersSon wrote :
Sometimes feminine logic is a wonderful thing!
You probably meant scary?

Also- not a good idea for women to bring their girlfriends to the date...especially if they bring the girlfriends who are cuter...it's distracting! (I'm not like JayJay who can handle two wimmen at the same time )
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« Long Periods of Time Between Dates | Dating | Takes only 5 seconds »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
How much physical contact is appropriate for a first date? JustSomeGuy12 Dating 158 October 15,2011 7:55am
Texting other women on a date Mystified101 Ask a Dating Expert 77 April 10,2011 5:11pm
Does length of date indicate quality of date? eH_Advice_Admin_Lori Dating 37 November 21,2010 4:14pm
Brilliant first date, then nothing? s77 Dating 25 August 26,2010 7:15pm
Bad Second Date Sort of bdavie Ask a Dating Expert 16 October 12,2009 10:29pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Wow Legend, you have been through a lot! OP, about 2 months ago, I went gluten-free and dairy-free with the exception of an occasional greek yogurt with fruit a few times a week. My main reason why ... ” –  legend29

Join the “Living Without....” discussion

“ I did not discourage the OP from meeting him....just wanted her to also be sure to be safe and not throw caution to the wind. I hope she has a great time and posts to the board how successful her ... ” –  legend29

Join the “a match wants to meet me in a foreign country” discussion

“The perpetrator at my work has slowed their controlling ways a bit. But, I think the damage is done for some and she will never be anything but an annoyance to them. She's much quieter, though seems ... ” –  legend29

Join the “Who's the Boss?” discussion

“Oh, I forgot to give an example from my family of origin. Both my grandpa and my father had their own successful businesses. We lived together in a 4 floor building occupying different flats but we ... ” –  elliechris

Join the “When is friendship a problem” discussion

“Most anyone has been there I imagine. My advice is: don't over think it, it's all a numbers game (more for some than others), focus on your happiness/life, and work on your market value.” –  Raw_Truth

Join the “Very discouraged.” discussion

“ I figured it had something to do with that "hair gel" that Cameron Diaz was using in the movie "There's Something About Mary"...” –  Shelby

Join the “What kind of add you see on this board?” discussion

“I used to do this in my youth. A couple relevant factors likely were that I broke up with them, they would have liked to re-engage and I had poor boundaries--desperately wanting to stay friends. ... ” –  EccentricAmbiguity

Join the “Hold on, hold on, hold on!” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 6:00am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0