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smashingovi is offline smashingovi Post #21  August 19,2009, 6:50pm
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Mr_Right wrote :
I'd say go for it, but don't make her your only option. Plus, she has to prove she's interested in you as well, since she did the rejecting earlier.
Definitely not my only option. I have made that mistake before.
 
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jenny_926 wrote :
Gosh, a year ago she told you that you weren't worth cultivating a relationship in her eyes, why would you want to start anything back up? Maybe she's lonely and desperate right now....but you already know her true feelings about you.

I say that you delete her as a friend on facebook (is she truly your friend? you haven't spoken to her in a year) and just move on to trying to meet someone who really values you.
When I first read your answer I thought you were being very negative and I just dismissed it. I must admit moving on does not come easy to me. Your answer although harsh is definitely something I need to become better at.
 
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She is the one who rejected you before. I suggest simply answering her questions without giving her much in the way of rrecipricol questions. That is to say - let her carry the burden of keeping your "new" relationship going. There is no reason why you shoud be the one to initiate any more - giving her the opportunity to reject you again.

If she is interested she will carry the burden of the contact and she will suggest dating again. If she isn't interested enough to do that - then she isn't interested enough - and you have better ways to spend you time.

Don't rule out the possibility that she has gotten dumped and is using you (and the potential that she can get you to ask her out) mostly to just to rebuild her ego.
 
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smashingovi wrote :
So I wanted to give an update on my situation...thanks to all for their opinions on the matter

So I didn't take it as slow as some others may have suggested. I went ahead and asked her if she wasn't seeing anyone right now would she be interested in going out sometime to catch up on things.

Her reply was that she isn't seeing anyone exclusively but she is seeing someone. She asked if I would be interested in getting to know each other as friends because she remembered from our dates that we got along really well and thought we could enjoy getting to know each other better.

Not a terrible answer but a confusing answer none the less. I don't know if I can be friends with someone I had and have a romantic interest in. The saga continues
This is great! So get to know her as a friend what's wrong with that? You can get to know her and there is no pressure. It's a great way to get to know one another. I have female friends who will never be more than friends and I treasure those relationships.
 
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