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MarkInAustin is offline MarkInAustin Post #1  August 11,2009, 4:24pm
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One problem I have is that I never know how to react (or what to say) when I get rejected, and I'm looking for advice. Let's say I ask somebody out that I've just met:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: Uhhh. Well, thanks anyway?

I really don't know what to do or what to say when she says no. I suppose I could just say "OK" and walk away, but even that doesn't seem right.

I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
 
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I usually say "suit yaself, toots".
 
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One: turn and walk away without a word, as the conversation already ended.
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MarkInAustin wrote :
One problem I have is that I never know how to react (or what to say) when I get rejected, and I'm looking for advice. Let's say I ask somebody out that I've just met:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: Uhhh. Well, thanks anyway?

I really don't know what to do or what to say when she says no. I suppose I could just say "OK" and walk away, but even that doesn't seem right.

I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
Well at least you had the nerve and the confidence to ask a woman out, many men don't. So count yourself lucky that you have the self confidence to do so, and like everything else in life, it is a game of numbers, so someone will say yes along the road!
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D_Lion wrote :
Three: counter-propose with something different, like a shorter coffee date.
Reminds me of a line from a movie.

Guy: Will you go out with me?
Girl: No.
Guy: Then I guess a BJ is out of the question.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Three: counter-propose with something different, like a shorter coffee date.
Reminds me of a line from a movie.

Guy: Will you go out with me?
Girl: No.
Guy: Then I guess a b***job is out of the question.
 
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MarkInAustin wrote :
One problem I have is that I never know how to react (or what to say) when I get rejected, and I'm looking for advice. Let's say I ask somebody out that I've just met:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: Uhhh. Well, thanks anyway?

I really don't know what to do or what to say when she says no. I suppose I could just say "OK" and walk away, but even that doesn't seem right.

I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
A flat "no" is a strong indication you should never have asked in the first place. However you respond just make sure you're not a wimp about it. Then go date one of her friends.
 
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Also, I think your question is too weak.
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have you ever had a woman say "no" and nothing else? or are you just looking out for the no and focusing on it?

usually its more like a "I can't because I have to *fill in the blak*" or "I'm sorry I'm married"

usually, you repond to the reason she is giving you...and you say something like "well, maybe some other time, it was nice talking to you" or "what a lucky guy! well it was nice talking to you!" or "that is too bad, well let me know if you ever need help with that "fill in the blank"

if a woman is just saying flat out "no" to you and not giving you a segway out of mere politeness, believe me...you don't want to date that woman anyway!
 
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