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One problem I have is that I never know how to react (or what to say) when I get rejected, and I'm looking for advice. Let's say I ask somebody out that I've just met:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: Uhhh. Well, thanks anyway?

I really don't know what to do or what to say when she says no. I suppose I could just say "OK" and walk away, but even that doesn't seem right.

I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
- August 11th, 2009, 05:24 pm
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I usually say "suit yaself, toots".
- August 11th, 2009, 05:29 pm
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One: turn and walk away without a word, as the conversation already ended.

Two: continue as if she didn’t speak:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: May I pick you up Friday at 6:00?

Goal is just to get her to laugh.

Three: counter-propose with something different, like a shorter coffee date.
- August 11th, 2009, 05:31 pm
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MarkInAustin wrote :
One problem I have is that I never know how to react (or what to say) when I get rejected, and I'm looking for advice. Let's say I ask somebody out that I've just met:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: Uhhh. Well, thanks anyway?

I really don't know what to do or what to say when she says no. I suppose I could just say "OK" and walk away, but even that doesn't seem right.

I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
Well at least you had the nerve and the confidence to ask a woman out, many men don't. So count yourself lucky that you have the self confidence to do so, and like everything else in life, it is a game of numbers, so someone will say yes along the road!
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- August 11th, 2009, 05:35 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Three: counter-propose with something different, like a shorter coffee date.
Reminds me of a line from a movie.

Guy: Will you go out with me?
Girl: No.
Guy: Then I guess a BJ is out of the question.
- August 11th, 2009, 05:37 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Three: counter-propose with something different, like a shorter coffee date.
Reminds me of a line from a movie.

Guy: Will you go out with me?
Girl: No.
Guy: Then I guess a b***job is out of the question.
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MarkInAustin wrote :
One problem I have is that I never know how to react (or what to say) when I get rejected, and I'm looking for advice. Let's say I ask somebody out that I've just met:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: Uhhh. Well, thanks anyway?

I really don't know what to do or what to say when she says no. I suppose I could just say "OK" and walk away, but even that doesn't seem right.

I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
A flat "no" is a strong indication you should never have asked in the first place. However you respond just make sure you're not a wimp about it. Then go date one of her friends.
- August 11th, 2009, 05:39 pm
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Also, I think your question is too weak.

As you’re winding down whatever introductory conversation you had going, turn directly toward her and look her in the eye. Say, “I’d like to get to know you better; may I take you to dinner this Friday? Perhaps [name of restaurant] around 6:00?”
- August 11th, 2009, 05:41 pm
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have you ever had a woman say "no" and nothing else? or are you just looking out for the no and focusing on it?

usually its more like a "I can't because I have to *fill in the blak*" or "I'm sorry I'm married"

usually, you repond to the reason she is giving you...and you say something like "well, maybe some other time, it was nice talking to you" or "what a lucky guy! well it was nice talking to you!" or "that is too bad, well let me know if you ever need help with that "fill in the blank"

if a woman is just saying flat out "no" to you and not giving you a segway out of mere politeness, believe me...you don't want to date that woman anyway!
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[quote=D_Lion;707581]


Two: continue as if she didn’t speak:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: May I pick you up Friday at 6:00?

Goal is just to get her to laugh.




If somebody said this to me, I would definitely laugh, take a second look, and there's a better than even chance I would reconsider that date!
Nothing beats a good sense of humor!
I also like Frog's second approach too...
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