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angelofmerci is offline angelofmerci Post #41  August 11,2009, 10:26pm
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If you just wanted a comeback at this point without hoping she will change her mind you could say "Then going to the Bahamas for a week would be out of the question."
 
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You are doing a woman a favor to invite her on a date. It is the favor to ask her, to treat her, and to give her the chance of getting to know you.
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MarkInAustin wrote :
One problem I have is that I never know how to react (or what to say) when I get rejected, and I'm looking for advice. Let's say I ask somebody out that I've just met:

Me: Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
Her: No.
Me: Uhhh. Well, thanks anyway?

I really don't know what to do or what to say when she says no. I suppose I could just say "OK" and walk away, but even that doesn't seem right.

I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
Dude, I think it's safe to say you struck out big time. She probably, like many women, get hit on by men all the time. She probably got annoyed that you seemed just like another guy trying to get in her pants - "yawn".

You showed too much weakness, and she sensed it. You can't give women the impression you struggled and had to fight your fear of rejection to weakly ask her to go to dinner.

You need to give women the impression that you are sincerely interested in getting to know them and have fun, and that you are in no hurry to get in their pants.

What you should have done is simply say "BTW, my name is .". Then if she responds smiling making eye contact with you responding with her name, then say "Well , I really enjoyed meeting you and talking to you." Then wait for her to respond. If she says smiling "I really enjoyed talking to you too", then say "I would really enjoy talking to you again. Do you have a phone number or email address where I can contact you, or else I can give you mine.".

If she at some point in that conversation has a hesitated look, or doesn't respond positively with a smile at any point in the conversation, then just drop it right there and say "It was great meeting you. Have a wonderful day". Then walk away and leave her be.

If she keeps responding positively to each step, then keep working towards getting her number.
 
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[quote=D_Lion;707581]One: turn and walk away without a word, as the conversation already ended.
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[quote=D_Lion;707797]You are doing a woman a favor to invite her on a date. It is the favor to ask her, to treat her, and to give her the chance of getting to know you.
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Fleuellen wrote :
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Next what?
 
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MarkInAustin wrote :
I would appreciate any constructive advice anybody has.
Picture them naked.
 
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And practice public speaking?
 
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What to say when you get rejected in a night club:

"I didn't ask if you want to dance. I said you look fat in those pants."
 
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