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I am not sure if this thread has been started or discussed. But how (ladies in particular) do you feel about your date playing vulgar music in his vehicle on the first date? Happened 2 me and completely turned me off. Was I being petty?
 
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You must be very petty, one dates takes you to a movie and another puts on vulgar music. Whatever happened to entertainment music and dancing? Since the date is dutch why not a shared activity? Next time bring you own CD's for the ride.

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It is not something I would normally focus on to heavily, but what your date plays in the car does say something about him. If he is playing vulgar music, he is being inconsiderate of you, or not really thinking about you. Also, is this the kind of music he prefers and always listens to? in which case you need to determine if you want it constantly present in your relationship.
 
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Ure_problemsolved wrote :
Good Morning,

I am not sure if this thread has been started or discussed. But how (ladies in particular) do you feel about your date playing vulgar music in his vehicle on the first date? Happened 2 me and completely turned me off. Was I being petty?
I'm of the opinion that one needs to accept a guy for who he is, mistakes, perceived flaws and all. If you didn't like it, even though it wasn't something major, it could be an issue if you feel the need to say something about it or think that he will change in the future.



 
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Well if it's some of that ICE CUBE/NWA or other "gangsta rap" stuff, that would be horrific, and as a female you should dump the guy fast, as that much of that so-called "music" glorifies raping, killing, pimping, violence, drug dealing, and misogeny
 
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while I don't listen to that kind of music, regardless I would have at least asked my date if she liked it. If she said she didn't I would have turned it. In my opinion, that would have been the polite thing to do.
 
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I think you are right in trusting your gut instincts here and I agree with what's stated below.... If it's just not your taste, that's one thing, but if it is offensive to you,or women in general, then that does tell you his state of mind... After all it didn't just come on the radio, he went out and picked it and bought it. Amazingly, he may not think it is offensive, or he may have been actually trying to impress you with his "cool" taste...
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It is not something I would normally focus on to heavily, but what your date plays in the car does say something about him. If he is playing vulgar music, he is being inconsiderate of you, or not really thinking about you. Also, is this the kind of music he prefers and always listens to? in which case you need to determine if you want it constantly present in your relationship.
 
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I just thought it was weird. Im not gonna say the rapper or the title of the song but it was an awkward moment, lol. The song was more raunchy than vulgar. I will admit, sometimes I listen to it but I wouldve put on something else. I mean what if I wouldve put on Lil Kim, lol.

To make a long story short-I stopped speaking to him for about a week. Then changed my mind because we had such a good time on the date. I told him what bothered me and he apologized. We are cool now! I shouldve been upfront from the get go and expressed myself when it happened. I know next time!
 
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dz1234 wrote :
while I don't listen to that kind of music, regardless I would have at least asked my date if she liked it. If she said she didn't I would have turned it. In my opinion, that would have been the polite thing to do.
I agree with you dz and while I don't listen to that kind of music either if this was my dates choice of music then I would think that this would go against our common interests. People who listen to that kind of music are not on the same wave length of life that I am. That kind of music is a far cry from Billy Joel, Elton John type of music of which I like to listen to. Oh, I do like some of the lastest bands like Angels and Airwaves, and Plus 44 which means I was happy to see the Blink182 is back together. I guess that goes with having a 19 year old son that lives with me. I can upgrade my taste of music to the latest bands but vulgar screaming songs or rap is not something I am willing to adapt to. If he didn't even ask you, then he was not taking in consideration that he was on a date with you, even friends will do that when they share a car ride, it's just common respect for each other.
 
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Can't have crrapp without rap.
 
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