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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #41  August 13,2009, 2:05am
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So where are all these women who like sex? And why don't they approach us on the street corner and ask men for sex? And why do so many women use sex as a weapon (if you are good, you get some, etc.) I disagree-men like it much more and our whole adult lives can be shaped by our desire to chase after it, etc.

We sacrifice our lives trying to get it, protect it, etc. If I'm dating a woman and I know I'll never get sex from her, what's the point in continueing to date her?
1. I assume the sex-loving women are dating women-loving men.
2. There are women who approach men on the streets - they are called prostitutes.
3. And of course, you are in a position to disagree because you've experienced being a woma and know exactly how a woman feels about sex, right? Or maybe it's because you degrade them so much that they simply don't feel like having sex with you. And they don't have to!

A normal healthy woman does not get into a relationship with a desire to never have sex with her partner. A lot of women change their minds during the relationship though, depending on how they are treated!

Sex is not a war, there is no reason to sacrifice or protect. It is supposed to be a natural extension of a satisfying exclusive relationship. A woman needs to feel ike a woman, not a sex object, when she is with a man!
 
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I'm very old fashioned. My ex husband and I didn't even discuss sex before we married. I don't look too favorably on a man who attempts to discuss sex. When a man does that it shows he has very little class, taste or social skills. Women have let men get away with this. Tell me a woman who's comfortable with answering what bra size she wears & how the grooming of her pubic area is? Come on ladies. Do you really find that conversation acceptable?

When a man throws back "I want to be open and discuss any subject." That's just a cop out. A way for him to get what he wants, a steamy conversation about sex. I belive that two mature individuals can figure out what they like sexually without sitting down, on the phone or on the internet & spelling out details. It's SEX not a trip to climb Mount Everest. If you're a man and you can't tell by a woman's body language or guidance what she likes during sex you've really got a problem.
 
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Some of you guys seem to have some good advice and this fits in with the topic, so here goes...

If your match has sex as part of his "must haves/can't stands" does that count as bringing it up before meeting? I've not gotten that far in the guided communication with a lot matches yet, so I'm not sure how I should take it. Is it fairly common for that to be part of guys "must haves/can't stands", i.e. "I can't someone who doesn't enjoy sex on a regular basis."? I can understand that he would want that in a partner, but is that his way of saying he has no patience and expects it right away? It's not that I don't want to and I'm not going to hold out forever, but I do need to be a in committed, stable relationship before I feel comfortable enough to have sex. Should I just break off communication right now or see how things go?
 
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treeye wrote :
I heard if a guy bring up topics about sex before you two even meet, then he's just looking for that.

is it true?

Ok some honesty here. Most guys think about sex a lot. That may be foreign to most women, but it's true. With guys that have lots of testosterone it can be a consuming drive. A lot of women love macho type guys, but the reality is he will probably never be faithful because of his drive. So sorry to burst you bubble, but a lot of guys use women for sex whether they talk about it or not before you meet. It's a drive most women will never understand just as most men will never understand a woman's emotional needs. The funny thing is as we get older all we really want is someone that cares about us (both men and women) and the physical attraction becomes less important. I always tell my female friends (who constantly complain about men's immaturity) that men do mature...at around age 50 or so.
 
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