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I know this has potential to burst with stereotypes (which I am okay with) especially in the spirit of summer...and the summer vacation/road trip.

I've probably lived in more places than the average 32 year old single person (who was never in the military, though I do work with them).

What have you noticed as strange, different, weird, good, or just plain prevalent in your city/state/small town when it comes to dating? Some towns have an imbalanced gender ratio (which is good for some and bad for others...think Alaska or other places that might not be as obvious like Washington DC which has significantly more women)

Have you lived in a different cities? How would you sum up the dating scene?

I'm currently in the San Antonio, TX area and have lived in Florida, Minnesota, California, and Central and Northeastern Illinois (Chicago area mostly). I'm leaving Europe...and Wisconsin... out! I'm thinking about moving to Oklahoma City or St. Louis due to some sudden changes at work and some new (and totally unforseen opportunites). Naturally, the dating scene is the first thing I wonder about! Here are my (unscientific) impressions -

South/Central Texas (between Austin and SA) - lots of men -- lots of Texas (often annoying) PRIDE.With screen names often followd by the word "native" Cowboys, hippies, hispanic cowboys, hispanic hippies, people that hate yankees and people that hate republicans, people that hate democrats, people that drive ginormous SUV's (that hate democrats and or republicans). Overall, good dating though if you can get past all of those annoyances. People that say things like "but this is Texas" as if that is an acceptable answer to anything. Lots of entertainment possibilities between SA, Austin and Hill Country. I will miss it if I leave.

Minnesota: Not sure, everyone was married by the time I got there at age 28. Even the guys in my grad program who were younger than me, had girlfriends back home that they later married.

Northern Illinois/Chicago: A little bit like Texas as far as extremes, but more like....Investment Banker/Wall Street types (who I avoided at all costs in my late 20's...due to my early 20's) and lots of starving artist uber liberal intellectual types (who also hate republicans, and suburbs but were probably born in Iowa). Hard place to date as it is more like a college party after the age of 25 (for women, but I hear its great for men which is supported by the gender imbalance and the anonymity of a huge city). Before the age of 25, you are better off IN a college town than in Chicago, unless you married your childhood sweetheart.... I just read in Sperlings Best Places that my home county (Lake County, IL) is one of the LEAST single places in Amercia, with only about 20% of the population being single. That is where I spent most of my time before moving to Texas!

Sacramento, CA: Great place to date, mountains, ocean, parks, etc all nearby. Also very family oriented (lots of married people). Overall, people seemed to assume I was a nice and superior person because I was from the midwest. Men in LA seemed to think I was superior because I had a real job and was not trying to be an actress or fashion designer. I have found CA stereotypes to be mostly false...think its one of the better places for dating. Especially if you can brag about your midwestern cred and morals, work ethic.

Naples, FL: Really beautiful, excellent dining, best place I've ever lived to pick up a sugar daddy.

Potentials: I am searching match to get an idea what these other places might be like

Oklahoma City: *crickets* (still researching, but that is what I hear). The men on this site look a little scary and overall Harley Davidsonish

St. Louis: Suprisingly...comforting. Near where I graduated from college. I see nice looking men with headlines like "If you play your cards right, you might get to ride in my 2001 mazda 626"

!! I used to have a 626 too! This has potential I think...

So, what have you noticed in your city? Have you noticed anything? Have you thought about it? Maybe its time for YOU to move somewhere more suitable? Have you changed geography for the sake of dating before? Rural, urban suburban experiences? Have you ever stopped to think that the problem might not be you....but your city?
 
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for good measure...this is what the "experts" have to say:

Best Cities For Singles 2009 - Forbes.com
 
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Not a chance!
I know almost nothing about georgraphy, even less about dating (I've discovered that on eHA pretty quickly). All I know is that I love the city I live in - it's gorgeous, friendly, smiles with sunshine more days than not, it feels like home and the seafood is superb - what else can a girl want?!
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Not a chance!
I know almost nothing about georgraphy, even less about dating (I've discovered that on eHA pretty quickly). All I know is that I love the city I live in - it's gorgeous, friendly, smiles with sunshine more days than not, it feels like home and the seafood is superb - what else can a girl want?!
sounds good to me! But, it is definitley something I think about....and I think more people should think about it, if, they are having problems finding the right person. Having travelled around a lot, I can honestly say it makes a difference! Of course personal factors are going to be the biggest driver. But your "place" can really affect your chances!

But I also think it might not be so cut and dried.

Supposedly Austin is a great place to date. But it is also pretty hip with lots of young people. Girls like me, might not stand out as much because there are a lot of *fabulous, exciting, AHEM gorgeous, 32 year olds

I might be kind of a big deal in Oklahoma... I have to take this into consideration, even if there are only like 10 single guys over 25. (of course anyone in Oklahoma can set me straight, the sooner the better!!)

ps. I tried to post a link but its being moderated, but I think worthy of discussion

the "Forbes Best Places for Singles"
 
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[quote=cp30;706653]I know this has potential to burst with stereotypes (which I am okay with) especially in the spirit of summer...and the summer vacation/road trip.

I've probably lived in more places than the average 32 year old single person (who was never in the military, though I do work with them).

What have you noticed as strange, different, weird, good, or just plain prevalent in your city/state/small town when it comes to dating? Some towns have an imbalanced gender ratio (which is good for some and bad for others...think Alaska or other places that might not be as obvious like Washington DC which has significantly more women)

Have you lived in a different cities? How would you sum up the dating scene?

I'm currently in the San Antonio, TX area and have lived in Florida, Minnesota, California, and Central and Northeastern Illinois (Chicago area mostly). I'm leaving Europe...and Wisconsin... out! I'm thinking about moving to Oklahoma City or St. Louis due to some sudden changes at work and some new (and totally unforseen opportunites). Naturally, the dating scene is the first thing I wonder about! Here are my (unscientific) impressions -

South/Central Texas (between Austin and SA) - lots of men -- lots of Texas (often annoying) PRIDE.With screen names often followd by the word "native" Cowboys, hippies, hispanic cowboys, hispanic hippies, people that hate yankees and people that hate republicans, people that hate democrats, people that drive ginormous SUV's (that hate democrats and or republicans). Overall, good dating though if you can get past all of those annoyances. People that say things like "but this is Texas" as if that is an acceptable answer to anything. Lots of entertainment possibilities between SA, Austin and Hill Country. I will miss it if I leave.

Minnesota: Not sure, everyone was married by the time I got there at age 28. Even the guys in my grad program who were younger than me, had girlfriends back home that they later married.

Northern Illinois/Chicago: A little bit like Texas as far as extremes, but more like....Investment Banker/Wall Street types (who I avoided at all costs in my late 20's...due to my early 20's) and lots of starving artist uber liberal intellectual types (who also hate republicans, and suburbs but were probably born in Iowa). Hard place to date as it is more like a college party after the age of 25 (for women, but I hear its great for men which is supported by the gender imbalance and the anonymity of a huge city). Before the age of 25, you are better off IN a college town than in Chicago, unless you married your childhood sweetheart.... I just read in Sperlings Best Places that my home county (Lake County, IL) is one of the LEAST single places in Amercia, with only about 20% of the population being single. That is where I spent most of my time before moving to Texas!

Sacramento, CA: Great place to date, mountains, ocean, parks, etc all nearby. Also very family oriented (lots of married people). Overall, people seemed to assume I was a nice and superior person because I was from the midwest. Men in LA seemed to think I was superior because I had a real job and was not trying to be an actress or fashion designer. I have found CA stereotypes to be mostly false...think its one of the better places for dating. Especially if you can brag about your midwestern cred and morals, work ethic.

Naples, FL: Really beautiful, excellent dining, best place I've ever lived to pick up a sugar daddy.

Potentials: I am searching match to get an idea what these other places might be like

Oklahoma City: *crickets* (still researching, but that is what I hear). The men on this site look a little scary and overall Harley Davidsonish

St. Louis: Suprisingly...comforting. Near where I graduated from college. I see nice looking men with headlines like "If you play your cards right, you might get to ride in my 2001 mazda 626"

!! I used to have a 626 too! This has potential I think...

So, what have you noticed in your city? Have you noticed anything? Have you thought about it? Maybe its time for YOU to move somewhere more suitable? Have you changed geography for the sake of dating before? Rural, urban suburban experiences? Have you ever stopped to think that the problem might not be you....but your city?[/quote]


I'm career first and dating second. I don't have a problem when it comes to dates... guess I am "easy".. lol

Do have a problem finding someone compatible...

Naaa... not moving due to relationship problems. Interesting thread though!
 
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cp30 wrote :
sounds good to me! But, it is definitley something I think about....and I think more people should think about it, if, they are having problems finding the right person. Having travelled around a lot, I can honestly say it makes a difference! Of course personal factors are going to be the biggest driver. But your "place" can really affect your chances!

But I also think it might not be so cut and dried.

Supposedly Austin is a great place to date. But it is also pretty hip with lots of young people. Girls like me, might not stand out as much because there are a lot of *fabulous, exciting, AHEM gorgeous, 32 year olds

I might be kind of a big deal in Oklahoma... I have to take this into consideration, even if there are only like 10 single guys over 25. (of course anyone in Oklahoma can set me straight, the sooner the better!!)

ps. I tried to post a link but its being moderated, but I think worthy of discussion

the "Forbes Best Places for Singles"
I can see how this is relevant in your situation.
It does not apply to mine - I only travel on relatively short business trips and for pleasure. I love coming home though. Most people believe I'm extrovert, I can be, but at heart I'm a real homebody. I like my comfort zone and the safety and security of my family and friends network - it's just comforting to know that they are right there when I need them, even though I don't often ask for help.

Also, living in a large city like Sydney means there is no shortage of men - good and not so good, of course.

I could never live a life of moving from city to city like you do - I find the fact that you can sustain this lifestyle quite admirable. I hope there are other posters, who are, or have been, in a similar situation to yours and can offer some more relevant views for you...
 
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I have absolutely no clue because the last time I had a date there was in the 80s!

Vegas
Yeah, well...
Lots of single men, mostly in construction or in some kind of real estate or finance job. There are a lot of things to do at least, and as long as you stay away from the Strip, the prices aren't too bad. Surprisingly, a lot of parks and museums, though some of them are a bit "odd". Men (and I would assume women) here tend to have a lot of issues, though. Vegas is where people go to start over when their lives have fallen apart. Throw in the fact that almost anything goes here, and you can see it's an addicted/dysfunctional person's mecca. Probably not the healthiest dating pool.

Great place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there.

Oh crap. I do.
 
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I just moved from Central PA to South Texas. I lived a lot of places prior to PA...but was married for 6 of those years so I really wasn't even noticing what the dating potential might be.

Central PA was the middle of nowhere...and outside of State College where the University was the population was pretty redneck (so I fit right in, lol).

Now that I've moved to South TX the most obvious difference is that the population of my city is 91% Hispanic. The area also unfortunately has among the highest teen pregnancy and obesity rates in the country. Still, my impression so far is that dating for me is going to be pretty good and that I'll have quite a few options.
 
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Well, I posted about Vegas, but I guess you're still not allowed to say Carp if you spell it right. And it's hard to talk about dating in Vegas without saying Carp.
 
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