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veganista88 is offline veganista88 Post #1  August 10,2009, 10:13am
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I need some advice about a guy. I met this guy at work and he and I started flirting with each other. Well we finally went on a date and it seemed that it went well but im not sure if he is into me. On the first date he said that I could spend the night if I wanted to but I said no. Then we I went to leave his place I gave him a hug and he said “is that all I get?” and I said “ok a kiss on the cheek?” He looked at me weird. So then we kissed on the lips. After that date I really really liked him and I just don’t know if he is into me the same way. Then I started to text him every now and then and he said he had fun and then I asked him if he wanted to hang out tomorrow and he said possibly. So what do you guys think is he looking for just sex or do you think he is into me? Also I want to let him know that I like him but I don’t want to scare him off so when is the right time to tell him?
 
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hmmm spend the night on a first date, "is that all I get", seems to me (and this is only my opinion) that he might just be looking for a little boom boom. I hope I'm wrong, but you asked and I answered. Might be a good thing, be careful about getting your honey where you get your money.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  August 10,2009, 11:08am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Well....you already know he's interested in having sex with you. He sounds so ambivalent about seeing you, and had such an attitude about getting some physical affection on the first date, like it was expected, that I doubt he's interested in anything more than sex.
 
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It sounds to me like he likes you. Pretty obvious, actually. If he's looking for just sex or something more long term, there's no way to know. That you'll have to figure out for yourself. Most guys will try to go all the way on a first date. That doesn't mean that's all they're looking for. But you played it right. If he was looking for nothing but sex, you'll find out soon enough. But does he like you? Uh, yes.
 
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veganista88 wrote :
I need some advice about a guy. I met this guy at work and he and I started flirting with each other. Well we finally went on a date and it seemed that it went well but im not sure if he is into me. On the first date he said that I could spend the night if I wanted to but I said no. Then we I went to leave his place I gave him a hug and he said “is that all I get?” and I said “ok a kiss on the cheek?” He looked at me weird. So then we kissed on the lips. After that date I really really liked him and I just don’t know if he is into me the same way. Then I started to text him every now and then and he said he had fun and then I asked him if he wanted to hang out tomorrow and he said possibly. So what do you guys think is he looking for just sex or do you think he is into me? Also I want to let him know that I like him but I don’t want to scare him off so when is the right time to tell him?
Yes this post is a good example right here.

I'm sorry OP, I'm not a guy but I would not bother with this guy. Why do you like him? If he says "possibly" he doesnt like you, and I would never kiss a guy on the lips on the first date. even if i really liked him.
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #6  August 10,2009, 11:17am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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boccabum wrote :
Most guys will try to go all the way on a first date.
You know better than to do that don't you?
 
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boccabum is offline boccabum Post #7  August 10,2009, 11:20am
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jayjay wrote :
You know better than to do that don't you?
Yes I do. I covered myself! I said most guys!!
 
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I am not a man, but I have heard that line before. Maybe he was being silly to see if you were physically attracted to him, maybe that is his crude way of saying, " I find you attractive, I would like to kiss you." Perhaps since he works with you he feels like he already knows you and does not have to go through the formalities of dating. Don't let him slide, knowing someone at work and dating them are two very different things. The work cafeteria does not count as a date.
However he could also be a slimeball that feels he has no time to waste in getting a little action. Maybe you are extreamly attractive and "doing you" would bring him major status points at work amongst the equally immature guys. I think the best thing to do is to hold off on sex. If it seems like he is quickly losing interest in you then it is a good sign that he just wants sex.
Meanwhile continue to date him, get to know him and see what he is all about. If he is really interested he will respect you wanting to wait for sex, if he is a slimeball then he will keep pushing for sex until you either have sex with him or he gets tired of asking.
I hope it works out. Good luck.
 
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Well, I'm not a man either, but it sounds like he wants to have sex wth you without seeing you (or possibly seeing you, at best)... Apparently this practice is enjoyable for some (personally, I don't get it). You just have to decide if you are one of them.
 
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dz1234 wrote :
hmmm spend the night on a first date, "is that all I get", seems to me (and this is only my opinion) that he might just be looking for a little boom boom. I hope I'm wrong, but you asked and I answered. Might be a good thing, be careful about getting your honey where you get your money.
I would say you are right on. All good advice.
 
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